What if you've met someone, and she is so right for you, in every way & Is it wrong to fall in love then? To me, cheating is just playing the field, and getting in bed with anyone. So, what really is cheating to you?
2006-12-14 17:26:38 · 25 answers · asked by dn.dan_6575 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Every marriage isn't a match made in heaven. So, think about that before giving your answer.
2006-12-14 17:53:22 · update #1
So what happen if you divorce your wife and marry this one you feel right.
2 years down the road and you met another one whom is so so much right for you ... you going to divorce and get marry again.
The person you are cheating is yourself and you know it.
2006-12-14 17:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by electricgold2002 5 · 16⤊ 0⤋
You haven't told us enough. If your marriage sucks then that's one thing but if you're in a ten plus year marriage and your wife is a wonderful, loving person and you have children, that is quite another. There are any number of other circumstances you could be in... but you've not told us that part.
But yes, if you are married and you "fall in love" with somebody else, I think it's cheating. It takes away from the marriage and takes your attentions away from your wife and that's not a great idea.
Also, you'll seek to justify your actions by finding fault with your wife. That's not good either.
Cheating, I suppose is to divert your affections from the person you've promised them to.
Marriage is work but it's worth it when it goes well. Your wife cannot compete with your fantasies about this woman you've met. You don't live with this woman who is so right for you. You don't know her well enough to get to know all of her sh__. And as a man, you must know that every woman has her sh__. It's always there, just waiting to come out. Just like you have your own sh__.
Sometimes the devil you know is better than the devil you don't know.
Give your poor wife a break. She can't compete with your fantasies. Think about it. When you fantasize about a woman, you're not going to think about her shortcomings. But when you think about your wife, I'll bet you do think about her shortcomings. She can't compete with that -- the poor girl. And she may not even realize that she is competing.
This has doom written all over it. Focus on your wife. Ten to one says she's a better catch than this woman you're fantasizing over.
Good luck!
2006-12-14 17:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have found someone else who is " Right" for you ....i dont think this is cheating ...Like u said cheating is more like playing the field actually falling in love with someone is completly differecnt or it is to me ..Technically everyone else in the world will say this is cheating because you are legally married...but then agian all those single people say when there bf or gf goes out with someone else its cheating too...so that says that everyone has there own OPINION bout the word "cheat" means..In your heart if you dont feel its wrong then its not wrong...Best thing would be maybe to get your divorce so that you can move on..?...Sure its not the best way to find the right person for you by being married and going out to find what you lack at home but you have to follow you heart...so if your heart is telling you she is the one for you then you should go for that...but in the end its what you feel is right and what is right in your heart...i hope this helps...good luck
2006-12-14 17:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by strawberryshortcake 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When you do your wedding vows you promise to forsake others. The bible says when you look lustfully at someone you have commited adultery. I tell you telling yourself that you love someone else when you are married is more than cheating, it is commiting adultery - read your ten commandments. I can not believe you even had guts to ask the world such a question, grow up and stop fooling yourself and your spouse. What happens after you have fallen in love? You will eventually want more, you will want to kiss and go to bed. Wake up and smell the coffee
2006-12-14 18:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Joker 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its cheating. Its emotional cheating. If you don't love someone anymore, have the courage to end it. Don't slowly crush their world, the way my husband crushed mine. Its cowardly, and its also not fair. How would you like it if this girl you love so much married you, then fell in love with another man and kept it secret from you? You wouldn't like it at all. That's your answer.
2006-12-14 17:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by Sara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT IT IS WRONG IN SOMEWAY BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED TO SOMEONE AND YOU SHOULD BE LOVING HER. I WOULD TALK IT OUT WITH MY SPOUSE AND LET THEM KNOW HOW I FEEL. WHEN YOU START HAVING NEW FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE YOU DON'T WANT THEM TO GET OUT OF HAND. THAT OTHER PERSON IS NOT YOUR WIFE. IF YOU DONT LIKE YOUR WIFE NO MORE IT IS BETTER TO LEAVE THE PERSON THAN CHEAT. WELL YOU MIGHT BE LUSTING AFTER THAT OTHER PERSON, REMEMBER THEY ARE NOT YOUR WIFE. ALSO EVERYTHING ISN'T ALWAYS AS IT SEEM. SOMETIMES THE GRASS IS NOT ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE. TRY TO MAKE IT WORK WITH YOUR WIFE
2006-12-14 17:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by mizzpretti 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok well im a woman and to be falling in love with someone isnt cheating everyone does it all the time with movie stars but that doesnt mena youd have sex with them so if you jsut remember that and treat it as a movie star crush id say youd be fine just think of this i bet your wife is in love with a movie star right now the only difference is that you get to see your crush all the time and in person just remember dont act on any feeling you may have unless you want out of your marriage
good luck
2006-12-14 17:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES!!!! if you are in a commited relationship that is cheating. I have been in a marriage where my husband cheated within the first six months of our marriage he continued to cheat on me with anyone and everyone in our community. I began to hate myself and eventually had a nervous breakdown.The end for me was when our daughter was found by me in another womans house with my now ex-husband sitting on her couch like nothing was going on. I am now happily divorced and married to another man who is god's gift as far as I am concerned. I have never been happier and my ex is now as miserable as I could ever have wished for him to be.
The moral of this story is if you cheat on someone be prepared for the consequences and reprecussion.
2006-12-15 07:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by wendy m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you pursue this love that you have for this other woman as a sexual relationship or romantic love, yes. You can love another woman as a friend, but as soon as it turns sexual it's cheating. Cheating is cheating not because it involves playing the field, but because it involves lying. If your wife knew about it and thought it was okay, it's not cheating.
2006-12-14 17:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think both forms are cheating. Playing the feild is definitely hurtful, but being iin love with one person adn married to another? Ouch! I would say get a divorce, I hate the thought of it, but your wife deserves someone who loves her and you deserve someone you can love
2006-12-14 17:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to have an affair, to fall in love, to be too friendly with the opposite sex after u r married. Coz imagine the same thing with ur spose, if she falls in love with an another guy, and tell u tat, how would u feel?!!
2006-12-14 17:30:28 · answer #11 · answered by wachie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋