So its official my boyfriend totally fooled me into thinking he was gonna ask me to marry him...well today while we were fighting he told me he stopped loving me a long time ago and that the only reason he stuck around this long was because of our son!...funny how the truth comes out when you are mad! right?
2006-12-14 16:50:48 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IT IS AND IT HURTS HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN A MAN ABOUT IT AND TOLD U
2006-12-14 16:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by TYNIA U 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahh I remember those drama days from high school. Good thing is that most likely or certainly that wont be the guy you marry and your friend will most likely be forgotten once you go off to college. Therefore, no one will really care about this in a few years. Anyway, to answer your question, think if there is something that you know about her, absolutely anything that she wouldn't like people to know about her. Little insecurity, secret, thing she once said about somebody, absolutely anything. Tell her if she has a problem with you breaking up with the guy, she should get back to him if she cares about him so much. I don't see why she would reveal the things that would get you in trouble, but if she does DENY everything! You hear, everything! Don't ever admit anything, even if it's true and you feel/are guilty. Then spit out the thing you know about her, and say that she is so jealous at you and quickly turn things around. You go and break up with that guy, there's no reason to be with somebody you don't like. You set the rules in your life and nobody else can tell you what to do. The more you stand up for yourself and speak out and act beachy, more will other people including you GF respect you. Toughen up, and do what your guts is telling you to do. p.s. i don't think that you guys are even dating, so you might as well just start ignoring him. that's what i would do.
2016-05-24 18:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth comes out when you're mad? Thats BS if I ever read it. People don't think rationally when blinded by anger and sometimes just say things that hurt to strike back at the other. If you are going to judge someone because of what they said when they were mad, and hold it against them as the truth, then you will be certain to have continued problems. So, I guess the answer is: WRONG!
2006-12-14 16:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by slap_shot69 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look you and he are in a strange relationship having a kid then the marriage is kind of back wards. Do not let his words spoke in a time of anger amount to much as people spout off when they get mad and do not mean what they are saying. So do nto blow him off just yeat. Check out his character and see if he will be a good husband and a good father first. Then work on the relationship slowly. He might be the one, he might not be the one.
2006-12-14 17:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!That's f***ed up. All you can do now is move on. Its gonna be hard seeing that you guys still have ties and have to see each other because of your son. Always remember the child comes first, try to talk it out and stay on good terms for the baby's sake. Now that you guys are over he's all that matters.
2006-12-14 17:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by Damn_Im_Fine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really bad story, I am sorry to hear that. The problem here is that your innocent son not get dragged into this mess. At least you aren't married or intend to at this stage otherwise it could really end in tears. I would suggest that you leave him and move on and find someone that really cares and loves you. Best of Luck.
2006-12-14 16:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by jtgot1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well at least he was honest.. Think about how many men are in that situation right now and haven't said anything. Is it such a bad thing if they care about the kid more than anything else? And if they stop loving you then that's no reason to get rid of him right away. It is possible to fall in AND out of love numerous times. I know this from experience. Who knows.. maybe he did/does intend to marry you one day. I doubt the thought hasn't crossed his mind.
Good luck, I hope things work out OK.
2006-12-14 16:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, that's too bad. You should'nt have assumed he was going to marry you. Don't blame it on him that he ended up not proposing. Your just mad because you led yourself to believe he was going to marry you. Don't ever expect anything in life, because when you do that, you end up disappointing yourself & blaming it on the other person when they don't deliver. You have yourself to blame. It's too bad you have a son w/him. Even though you & your boyfriend did'nt work out, at least you can say there was only 1 thing that came out good from it.......YOUR SON.
even though your son's a blessing, you should've waited to have a kid with a guy who did marry you. Instead you assumed he would. That was your bad. I don't think single parenting is bad, just as long as your mature & responsible.
2006-12-14 16:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he might of said that to hurt you because you were fighting...and no most of the time you don't get the truth when your mad you get the truth when you sit down face to face and discuss it like 2 adults not to kids screaming at each other..plus do you really think its good for your son to be hearing that kind of talk..if its that bad then pack up and leave but screaming at each other isn't going to solve anything
2006-12-14 16:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I agee with that. I have said so many hurtful things to my manfriend when I was angry, I think maybe people say things when they are upset that they don't really mean. Maybe he was just trying to hurt you. Give it some cooling off time and then reapproach the situation. Good luck to you and your little boy. I am a single mom with two boys, it is hard to raise them by myself. Things will work out exactly how they are supposed to. Have a merry Christmas. Focus on your son, he will get you through. :)
2006-12-14 16:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by sks26 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I believe he spoke out of anger. I also do not believe each and evey word spoken was the whole truth. I think he wants a compromise but I dont think he wants a confrontation to get a compromise. We need to ask him what are his concerns and address them.
2006-12-14 17:57:04 · answer #11 · answered by reme14u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋