and dont give me that be yourself crap bc it makes it worse i shop at hollister and have a blackberry and im cute but i have no friends and when the teacher says we have to pick partners i act like im sick and she knows whats goin on. MY MOM said they are just gelous but they are not because there is like .......................one other girl in school that shops at hollister and everyone loves her and she has friends and im a good person this has been goin on since the 3rd grade now im in 6th grade and what the crap is wrong with these people?
2006-12-14 16:37:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok lets try this again IM NOT EVEN TRYIN!!!!!!!!!!! im just a shy girl that shop at hollister with a blackberry and everyone hates me they talk about me and when i walk in the luch room eveyones staring at me and it gets quite my life is a nightmare and i dont want to go to school and put up with this anymore i have a great voice and thats the only time they talk to me if they need me for chours because they all suck. There are popular girls at school.....ever seen mean girls? thats my life im like the katie and everyone else is like a plastic. Please help me im being mysself and that just makes it worse so dont tell me to do that
2006-12-14 16:45:37 · update #1
Wait until college to be popular. You will see how juvenile HS is.
The 3 most popular people in my HS did this after HS: Head Cheerleader ended up going to University of Arizona and left after the first semester due to flunking out. In school, she knew how to play the smart guys by schmoozing them and letting her copy off of them. She is still a waitess at a bar. Never went back to college.
The next guy was a football player who went into the family business. When the parent's got out and sold it to him, he drank and beat his wife. She left him after years of abuse, he went to prison for 2 years and lost the business.
The Third most popular person ended up getting shot in a bar fight at 24 years old.
Their glory days had ended at 18. Make your glory days college and beyond. Oh, and it doesn't matter where you shop as long as you buy quality goods.
2006-12-14 16:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by Joe S 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being "popular" is completely overrated.
I was going through pretty much the same thing when I was in the 6th grade...I didn't have a single friend the whole year. What I finally realized was that I was looking for friends in the wrong places. I'm sure there probably are girls out there that are more like you...who are shy and could use a good friend. Sometime at lunch look around the cafeteria and try to find a table of nice looking girls and ask if you can sit with them.
Once you make a friend or two making more friends becomes so much easier and I promise you it will get better....people can be awful at that age but in a few years things WILL be better. High school's nice because there are a lot of activities you can join to make more friends.
And you don't need to wear hollister to make friends...just wear whatever clothes you feel like wearing. Be aware that sometimes kids might be mean to you because they think you're trying too hard to be popular...just watch out for that.
I eventually made more friends than I could keep track of....if I can do it I know you can, too. :)
2006-12-15 01:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Melancholy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're in 6th grade, you say? Let me go back in time then. Alrighty, so I guess the problem is that the want to BE popular is causing you not to be. If you're really a good person like you say, you should try hanging with some other people who aren't popular either. The fact that you shop at Hollister or have a Blackberry won't increase your popularity status. It'll just make people think you're trying too hard. I'm not saying dtich what you like and who you are. Just tone it down, that's all. Don't try to look like the stereo-typed popular blonde hair, blue eyed, LV purse carrying chick with 1,000 boyfriends. Just try to make friends with other people and ignore the fact the "popular people are plastics". They're not THAT important to you, are they?
2006-12-15 00:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Christ, look at giggleass- "be yourthelf!" What a dumbass. Yea, man, do I agree- none of that 'be yourself' crap- I bet those people don't even know what they mean when they say that.
OK, it sounds like you have the looks and dress thing down. Can you afford to upgrade it to abercrombie? Since you have the looks thing down, are you the kind of person people like to be around? That works really well- laugh at people's jokes if you find them truly funny, and don't say bad things about other people if you can help it- people will start to trust you.
If you were cute AND nice, man, that is sooo hard to beat. One more thing- if you can be the best at something- anything- or if you can do something that people value that no one else can do- that helps. You like nice people, right? Well, other people will like you if you're nice too!
2006-12-15 00:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by XL HaHa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grade 6.. i would suggest keep participating to any opportunities that comes up.. even if you're not good at it.. actually, especially if you're not good at it.. that way others can relate..
and for your age you're quite aware of what's really what's up.. when i was your age i focused more on learning and not so much of being popular.. at recess, that's when i let loose.. run around like a maniac.. show emotions; smile, laugh, be angry.. avoid getting bullied.. stand up for yourself but don't get beat up.. what else.. i didn't use the comp. till high school.. instead watch t.v., find a crush and daydream like there's no tomorrow.. get comfortable 'cause that's what attracts people..
2006-12-15 00:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by freelyrical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell are you tryin to be someone you aren't?
Life is not a freaki popularity contest.
Just because you shop at hollister, have a blackberry and you're cute doesn't mean you're gonna be popular.
girl, you want people to like you because of your personality, not how much money you spend on yourself.
I shop at guess and bebe and carry a coach purse and so wut? i don't want people to like me because i got moneys.
Advice: don't sleep around. That is just ho status. you don't want to get the wrong attention from guys.
And so you wanna be popular? Then be a fake.
or maybe you're just not a people person. Get over it kid, if you can't be the popular person, be the b**ch.
2006-12-15 00:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK i agree with XL Ha Ha, but i u can skip abercrombie and go right up to BKE (Buckle) they cost more, but they have better jeans (u might need then brought in at the waist). also if they're 2 long they do free tailoring. and really popularity does help in school. oh and be a cheerleader if u can. good luck!
2006-12-15 17:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not popular cause you're over thinking it.
when you stop trying to figure people out by wearing the right clothes, people will like you
cause they will know you arent acting so fake.
becasue tryign to have friends becaseu of your clothes is being fake.
perhaps it woudl help if you werent picky abotu who your friends were
you didnt say anythign abotu that
but i have a feeling you arent jumping to be partners with the chubby girl or teh dorky girl.
popular people are people that everyone knows.
happy people are teh people that are good friends.
dont go for quantity, go for quality,
if you have more than 5 best friends, something is amiss.
2006-12-15 00:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you want my advice, dont be popular. you know the girls in the movies that fall in love with the hott guys? none of those girls were popular. being popular gives you the mindset that you are better than everyone else. bein like you are now, that is ur advantage.
2006-12-15 00:42:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get laid, take crack, smoke, tatoo urself, get a pierce on every part of ur body, b an alchoholic and stuff liddat.
Honestly ask urself, is that too huge a price to pay for fame?
2006-12-15 00:41:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋