how do you forgive your mate after they cheated?

Question

we been married for 10 months

Answer 1

forgiving is one thing............forgetting is another!!

Answer 2

How do I??? I couldn't...... Marriage is really special -- Respect, Admiration, Passion and Trust. It is sexually exclusive, with a whole lot of lovies, of helping, of solving problems without rage and of , if you so choose, to have a safe, loving enviornment in which to raise children..... With the trust gone, hon (or was there ever any in such a short marriage???) the rest of it either blows up in your faace, or erodes. In such a short time, I'd wonder why your spouse even bothered to marry you, or you him(or her) and what either of you were thinking when you married. If you don't have the four things above, hon, you don't have a marriage, you have a roommate, and an occasional boinking buddy, who will sooner or later bring you a sexually transmitted disease. Betrayal is the dealbuster in a marriage, the only dealbuster. If you never had those four items above, you really never had a marriage......

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Answer 3

10 months or 10 years. The real issue will be trust from now on.

1) Every time he leaves the house- Suspicion "Where is he, with her?

2) A call to his mobile, a number you don't recognize on the phone bill- Suspicion "Who's number is that? someone else he is seeing or her again?

The list of things that may drive you crazy with suspicion and distrust. Maybe just maybe you may forgive, but you will not forget and it will be always in the back of your mind.

Answer 4

Only God can heal this kind of damage and the cheating spouse has to fully cut any and all ties with the one they cheated with. They also have to be fully committed to the spouse that was hurt and committed to go through the years that it takes to get over this and build the trust again. Become a born again christian and God will heal the marraige with total committment from both of you, forgivness and His grace. It takes time and hard work.

Answer 5

It is all right to forgive them, but they should have the decency to repent of their cheating. Just because you forgive them is no sign you have to trust them. I cannot imagine cheating after only 10 months - I think your partner has a very short attention span.

Answer 6

you can't forgive if you don't forget. I was cheated on and since I couldn't get pass the affair it didn't work out . My grandpa always told me that once a man cheat on a woman once he will do it all the time good luck

Answer 7

I did the first time. I felt so bad for him because he seemed so sorry. Then he did it again. We were married for less than two years. I divorced his @$$ and haven't looked back. Now I'm in a relationship with the best man ever, and I couldn't be happier.

Answer 8

You have to decide to either forgive & forget or go for a divorce.
You must make up your mind and do it soon...
Cheating this soon is not a good sign...
Keep an eye on him...
If you decide to forgive & forget, let him know that this is his
last chance...

Answer 9

It is possible, but is so very difficult. Trust is so hard to rebuild. It will be hardest on you because you will question everything he does-where he goes,what he says,his motivation for anything kind he does for you.

Take time away from him-a few days of complete solitude because you need to really search yourself to see if you are capable of starting over with him.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 10

you have not been married long so I think it will happen again so I would be careful about forgiving I could not do it at all

Answer 11

it will be hard, you can forgive but will never forget, it will always be in the back of your mind. if he leaves the house you will be wondering where is he going, what time will he be back, is he realy going where he told me? you have to be very strong to put up with all those questions