What would you do or should you do or suggest if....
You had a forbidden attraction towards someone not of your taste, too old for you, unethically unethical because he/she is your instructor or boss or co-worker? And even married?
It all started when he visually lusted after you, thinking you'd not notice but oh yeah you did, you are like an owl, you notice even the most subtle things.
You find yourself attracted to that person and always thinking about him/her you want to stop, you killed off the forbidden feelings, you even dreamed about him/her but not anymore(it was a forbidden dream).
You admire him/her respect him/her and love their smile and personality because both of you have platonic chemistry and experienced forbidden sexual tension.
What to do? Avoid him forever until this prob of yours is gone?
Ok side note, I don't mean obsession or stalking ok?
2006-12-14 15:33:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
let life run its course
2006-12-14 15:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by trojanzombie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just happened to me, recently. Big forbidden age difference. I was so miserable and so was he.
We just went for it.
I was surprised to find out that my friends understood and even encouraged it!
If it's mutual. Don't torture yourself or care what others think.
You might be surprised at how really common it is! I was.
I am SOOOOO happy. It didn't last but that's OK.
I'll never forget him and I will treasure those memories for life.
TAKE THE PLUNGE or you might regret it.
Remember. It can't hurt you.
2006-12-14 23:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a quagmire of epic proportions. You are going to stir up a hornet's nest in so many ways if you get involved with him.
If I had someone as the opposite sex who was my boss and I thought she wanted me.....AND she was married....and I thought she would be a good roll in the sack.....I still wouldn't do it. Even if I left the job, I wouldn't do it because she is married. It's an even easier decision if she has children too.
You can lust after people who are not married and are not your boss. He doesn't have to be the one you go after.
2006-12-14 23:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by chris_in_columbia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, just remember the fact that he's your boss and he's married. so if you were to get into a relationship w/ him and something went wrong and maybe you hurt his feelings or something, he still has the power to fire you. plus, don't forget all the drama there will be if his wife finds out about you!
2006-12-14 23:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal, but if I work with the person....NO. Attraction can fade easily and then there's nothing left but awkwardness.
2006-12-14 23:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by california girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would just try to stop liking that person try to like other people
2006-12-14 23:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by Alvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't happen to me. But to answer your question - nothing.
2006-12-14 23:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all u have to do is tell him/her softly so YOU wont get fired because of what U did.
2006-12-14 23:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by uradellc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jump on it~ Only live once.
2006-12-14 23:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by Jaysangl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AVOID HIM UNTIIL THE PROBLEMS IS GONE!!
2006-12-14 23:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋