I am asking this because I have a past love where things didnt work out, sometimes i truly feel wrong for this and there are times that I feel its normal. I just need advice on this feeling. Serious answers only please.
2006-12-14 15:29:29 · 19 answers · asked by Ms. Q 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes- Everyone has a first love that never really leaves you. Most people aren't lucky enough to marry that person.
I have been married over eleven years and love my huhusband very much. But the guy I dated before him sneaks up in my head every once in a while. When he does pop up in my memories b/c of a song or smell I do feel kind of guilty.
But it doesn't mean that you love the one your with any less. Trust me your normal.
2006-12-14 15:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. I`ve been married for 30 years and I can`t imagine ever loving another woman like I love my wife. I also know that if she died it is possible that, after time healed some of the wounds, that I would find another woman to marry. My heart says that this couldn`t happen but my head says, `Yes Mark, it might.
She wouldn`t replace my darling Ruth, but she would be her own person in a new relationship.
This means that my heart would always be with Ruth but could also go to another. It`s like parents who can love several children at the same time.
Now, when you`re dating, the love offered is tentative. This means that you are exploring whether it will last. It can be deep, it can be strong, but you just don`t know if it`s permanent.
You can`t feel guilty for feeling love but remember that true love only deepens over time. Sometimes people just aren`t meant for each other no matter how much they might like each other. Cherish that person, cherish the memories, but move on to a better, stronger, and lasting relationship.
2006-12-14 23:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by ethicsprof 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to rekindle old flames specially if they touched our hearts in the most deep way possible, specially when they were taken away so suddenly and even sometimes when both of you departed still in love with each other. I love my husband now but there is a part of me that belongs to a passionated long lost love. He understands that it was my past and even though I would never betray my husband there is always the dream of what could have been and the fantasy of finding each other again. It is good to dream and in some cases to act on your fantasies as long as you and your flame are single and available to pursuit happiness together once more. If I were to be single in the future I know I will try to find him and see what could there be...
2006-12-14 23:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by darlalee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe this to be true, there is at least for me one person that truley has my heart and always will. If your a Mom then you know what it is like to feel overwhelmed with love. The man that has my heart in every way did not even step into my life till I was 33 yrs old with 2 children. So it is in my opinion possible for one to have your heart , and protect it at all cost!
2006-12-15 00:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by chiefsbabe69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I feel that there is always someone who has my heart in there hands. in fact their name is Michael Rogers. He holds my heart and I would protect himwith my life. He understands me and knows what I am going through with my family even though we are not boyfriend girlfriend relationship he holds my heart. I understand him for he understands me. If you thinknthat there is someone that holds your heart then there is.[ He or she may not show it but you an believe it. I feel that this kid likes me just a little. Even if there was a relationship the kid or adult may still like you. Yes you might like this kid but it doesn't mean that he or she likes you. For instance what if you had a boyfriend and they protended to like you but liked someone else it's just like that. I know that there is someone out there for you. They just might have found you yet or maybe the have. Truley this is what I think!
2006-12-14 23:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was always in love with my dad they never got married because she wanted it he didnt, so she took us kids and moved 3 states away. I know she regreted it for the longest time but she eventually got married to a nice guy and was married for 9 yrs. . But through all of this I got to go and see him every summer, and I know for a fact that she never stopped loving him. there is a difference between "in love" and love. you will always love your first love no matter what and thats ok, as long as it doesnt mess with the rest of your life
2006-12-14 23:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by hotmoma_37 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is one, its only happened once for me. I keep hope that maybe someday she will find me in her heart still and maybe we can try again. Maybe it is a foolish thought but I still love her and I always will. I just do not know if it even matters to her anymore, but I cannot help what I feel for her so I wait for that "someday" to come.
-NmD!
2006-12-14 23:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No!!!
There are more than one who will 'always' have my heart! Of those, there are few who deserve it! (Honestly)!
My 1st love will always have a very special place in my heart. I would welcome her to this day! But also of many past loves!
The woman I married will always have ALL of my love, whether we are together or not!
Confusing situation! Yup! And BedThyme here as well! Goodnight!
The Ol' Sasquatch Ã
2006-12-14 23:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I gave a boy my heart when I was a junior in high school. He still has it today, 29 years later. Luckily, we were married 28 years ago. Wouldn't change it for anything.
2006-12-14 23:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by GPHS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i broke up with a girl a long time ago...long time ago and i still feel what a jerk i was to do that to her...she did nothing but be nice and loving to me....i look for her still, cant find her...its been over 20 years...i still regret being a jerk.....normal or not make sure you do whatever it is not to feel bad for not doing the right thing.....
2006-12-14 23:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by sweetness666 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋