Should I be suspicious or thankful?

Question

My husband come home from work this evening and told me of how he received a gift basket from someone. When I asked where all the goodies went he said there weren't that many and that he gave them to coworkers. I was fine with this, I asked if he saved the basket at least, we could recycle and he said the goodies all came attached to one another with ribbon.
I asked him if he got a card with the gifts and he said no. I asked him if he knew who it came from he said yes. It came from an ex employer from years ago in Mississippi, we currently live in TX. I am suspicious that a corporation sends gifts without basket or box. Should I be suspicious of this being a lie or should I be thankful that he told me about it at all? I am very happy in our marriage, I just find that the gift thing was a little weird. Thanks for all your responses.

Answer 1

Forget the situation for a moment. Let's look at you and your reaction to the situation. Your reaction is one of distrust. And the only reason you might not trust him would be...
1. There is something else that you haven't told us.
2. There is no reason for you to distrust.
3. Something weird is going on.
I vote for number one, myself. I admit that the circumstances as you describe them are a little odd but that in and of itself means very little.

If there is more to the story then you need to look into this a little. But if there's nothing more to the story then maybe you're making more out of this than it warrants.

But no matter what, you need to look at your lack of trust and deal with it. Those who do not trust are often not to be trusted. If you've got a long history with this man and he has always been honest then I would go talk to a counselor about this -- on your own.

Then again, it could be that you're feeling inadequate and you need something more to do. If the marriage is good and everyone is honest then it would be safe to assume that no reasonable man is going to mess that up.

This isn't much of an answer, is it? Hope this is at least somewhat helpful.

Answer 2

It is weird, wierd that it's suspicious. The story doesn't really make any sense, especially the point you brought up that a corporation would send something without a basket or anything. My opinion is that if he's going to tell you something, he should tell you everything (meaning details), not tell you something that can be partially true and partially a lie. Casually ask him about the gift basket throughout a few weeks and see if he changes the story.

But if you're looking for an answer, be a little bit suspicious.

Answer 3

Well, it is really weird that an ex employer from many years ago would send a gift to an out of state ex employee. However, if your husband had something to hide, why would he mention the gift thing to begin with?

Answer 4

You said, he said, "It came from an ex employer from years ago in Mississippi...." That doesn't mean from a corporation, just an individual. Other then that what is he doing to make you suspicious? Don't jump off the deep end. If your marriage is good let it go and go on.... Good Luck

Answer 5

sounds alittle suspicious, if he was really thankful for the gifts then he wouldnt of gave some of them away to other coworkers, and if no card came with the gift then how does he know who they are from, seems like he is trying to cover up for the person who reallly gave him the gifts and gave some away so it wouldnt look too suspicious...

Answer 6

I would be real suspicious if my husband came home with part of a gift or a whole gift and was elusive as to who it was from.
Unless his old company made some strange habit like that.
Since he came home with nothing I can't believe he even said anything and It does seem strange he did not walk in the door and day "yeah guess who sent me a gift" sorry I am as baffled as you.............................

Answer 7

It is absolutely normal. My husband does it all the time. He says that he feels very guilty getting gifts when his team has worked their heads off all through and he should not be taking the goodies alone. So sharing them with his team mates makes them feel appreciated. In your case your husband might have discarded the box, why to accumulate junk?? Be positive and happy...don't even worry.

Answer 8

well its probably nothing, because if it was from someone 'suspicious' he could have easily just not said anything about receiving a gift basket. Id let it go...

Answer 9

You have a happy marriage so don't let this distract your marriage. Be thankful and keep faith in your marriage. You may consider giving a surprise gift for your husband when he is in the office.

Answer 10

I don't think you should waste your time being suspicious, unless you have other reasons for feeling that way. If there was anything fishy about this gift, surely he would have never mentioned it right?