OKay, i broke up with my ex- boyfriend, of 2.5 years (i mean, we been to gether for 2 and half years) , about 1 and a half year ago; we broke up. I moved to a different city, and moved on. You could say that i am okay...But still to this day, he calls,....tries to move where i am. I changed my phone number, and told him to leave me alone. I understand that he is very heart broken,...but it seems like he isn't making an effort to coop with it. Sometimes...he'll write letters saying he is too sad and wants to end his life...I tried helping him coop with it. But he gets the wrong idea....How do i tell him to stop....I tried telling him straight out..Police thingy...Well, he is 28, and i am 21.....shouldn't he be more mature about it? Any help? it's alittle scary....
2006-12-14 14:39:42 · 17 answers · asked by Punk_Rockin' Chick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have been sending him mixed messages. When you are done with someone you need to walk away and not look back. You may love them but love them from a distance. Stop communicating with him.
2006-12-14 14:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, just cause someone is older doesn't mean that they're more mature. obviously you are alot more mature at 21 than he is at 28. Thats the reason he can't cope with you two breaking up, cause he's not mature enough yet. The only think you can do is not take his calls, and maybe get an unlisted number, just avoid any and all contact that he might try. Let him work through it by himself. Sounds like he's trying to control you even though you're not together anymore. Just don't talk to him, and let him cope with it. Only time will heal his feelings.
2006-12-14 22:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by Iowa_Bound 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to just push him out, when he writes you just throw the letter out without even reading it, you said you changed your number but if he gets it still get call display and either dont answer it or diguse your voice and say that hes got the wrong number. If hes saying hes going to end his life and blah blah blah, he just wants you to come back to him even if its making you feel bad, just ignore it and forget him cut off all contact all together. If he finds out some way where you live and things gets wrose you need to get a restraining order against him, than he wont have a choice in the matter. But if you talk to him even by telling him to leave you alone he will keep trying with you, you just need to stop talking all together to him.
2006-12-14 22:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him one last time that you can't help how you feel and you do not want to be with him. Tell him you are sorry he is sad, but if he feels suicidal, he should call a Suicide Prevention Hot line and not call you because you can't help him. Tell him if he doesn't stop all contact with you, you will have no choice but to get a restraining order and have him arrested. And then, no matter what, do not take his calls or have any contact with him. He will probably make up reasons to speak to you, but don't fall for any of them. Good Luck!
2006-12-14 22:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Stop answering his calls and letters. As a matter of fact don't read them. If he has family send them the letters maybe they can help. I'm sorry to say you are not responsible for the actions of someone else only your own. Don't let him get to you. Whatever he does or doesn't do is on him. Sorry, Good Luck
2006-12-14 22:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by dnisey64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple. Just cut off all communication. Don't take those calls and send those letters "Return To Sender." You can buy one of those rubber stamps for a couple of dollars.
He's a whiny little whimp with no testicles. The boy needs to grow up (and grow a set). Kudos to you for getting on with your life. Too bad he can't.
2006-12-14 23:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very scary to me. Do the police thing restraining order. 2.5 years is way too long. This guy should be over it and he is not. I would be very worried. If you can contact his parents or family please do and tell them what is up.
Refuse all communication with him.
If you do decide to comminucate with him, tell him to go ahead and end his life. Better his than yours.
2006-12-14 22:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is looking for a mother not a gf Be blunt and to the point, You are not responsible for what other people do in
a situation like this..Tell him the name of good gun store,
If he is contemplating suicide, Life is to short..
2006-12-15 11:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have any communication with him at all, if he calls let the machine get it, if he writes send the letters back. if it continues make sure you save any scary messages on the machine and call the cops for real, if he wants to end his life its not up to you to save him you need to think of yourself before he starts to think he wants to end your life too.
2006-12-14 22:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by frostytink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a victim of a stalker and you need to inform the police right away. You don't know what this man is capable of. For your safety, you need to act now! He sounds very immature and it would also scare the hell out of me. He is a very sick man, so please keep your distance. I'll pray for you sweetie.
2006-12-14 22:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋