all she says she dont do no harm and that she will do what she wants to do i wont stop her but she cant see what it is doing to me i love her so much but i think i am losing her
2006-12-14 14:36:12 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your own insecurity is what is damaging your relationship more than anything else. Work on your self confidence and she will not need to pretend with these other guys, she will have the guy she wants right there at home. Your insecurity is as evident as a flashing caution light.
2006-12-14 14:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by Paul S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When u r with somebody for a while, u begin to get used to that person, and there r no more surprises in the relationship. Sometimes, people go to other places to get some excitement.
I think that it's a good thing that she's just talkin' to other guys on the net, cuz she could be doin' it in person, and we all know what that actually leads to.
Never try to stop her from doing something that she likes, and NEVER give her an ultimatum...making her choose between a habit or a hobby and u. It adds unwanted pressure to the relationship, and it can only lead to problems.
One thing I must say is that TRUST is one of the KEY elements in a relationship. If u love her like u say u do, then u shouldn't have to worry about her cheating on u.
2006-12-14 22:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ironic how I just heard of a similar issue a few days ago on the Montel Show. The love doctor's advice was that if both people are okay with it and that the cheating on the net does not involve emotions, then it's ok. But if the cheating on the net is not okay for both people in the relationship, then what you have to do is to talk to her about how what she is doing is making you feel. If that doesn't work then obviously there's an unequal balance of respect in the relationship.
And here's a question to think about. If she is in a relationship with you, why does she need to cheat with people on the net? Maybe this answer will help you move on.
2006-12-14 22:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by see_detachment 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to say not to do it but if she still does it there is nothing much you can do. You have to confront her and discuss your relationship. Some people are good at juggling several relationships at the same time. She may not yet be mature enough to stick to one guy and get seriously committed.
I know it makes us afraid of losing the one we love.
But come hell or high water, if she can't reciprocate your feelings why keep pushing it?
It's time to use your head. If you lose her, let it be. But make sure you have done your part first before letting go. That way, there will be no remorse.
No guarantees in life my friend. Risks are there for us to take and learn from.
2006-12-14 22:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by nomamalin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats what my bf is asking me too. He get jealous with my friends in y360. I told him that my friends here do no harm to me. They cant see me (they see me only in pic), touch me or do anything to me. I really love him and my love 4 him is different from my 360 friends.All my friends there know that im crazy inlove with him. Dont worry pal being friendly in the net does not mean flirting or cheating. Its a good way to meet people around the world without spending too much money. I have friends around the world without leaving home.Isnt that great.? Dont ask her to choose between u and her friends in the net., Thats not a good thing to do maybe shes bored and being in the net is her way to past her time.
2006-12-14 23:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by anne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will do if you keep acting like this! Voice of expierence here...i was with my boyfriend for 5years until recently-i told him it was ova, one of the reasons was because of the way he would act when i went online, especially if i was chatting to a man!
He started going on that he had lost me to the internet..sounds like a heading for the Jeremy Kyle Show personally...as a boyfriend he was good...till he started acting like my father and really ova reacting about me 'cheating online!'
Im sure all your girlfriend is doing is having some harmless fun and chat. At the end of the day, shes not meeting the people she chats to online is she..nope-she turns off the pc and snuggles up with you at the end of the night...so how is it cheating?!
If you continue to make a mountain out of a molehill...she'll probably tell you to sod off eventually so be careful if you love her as much as you say you do!!
2006-12-15 00:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by splight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her and find out why she needs to do this.
And you should also explain to her why you don't want her to do it, tell her how it makes you feel. Most peoples problems are through lack of communication. Don't be afraid to speak out if something is not working for you. Then you can discuss it and if up with a compromise, but or course that depends if you want to do so to keep the relationship going, this is something only you can decide. Good Luck Sheila.
2006-12-15 03:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by she shaw sea shore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude to tell you the truth guys on the net can be sweet hearts...and usualy girl turn to the net for alittle bit of sweet talk cuz they dont get it at home from thier man...instead of comfronting her with it (wich will only make her want to go on even more cuz you "dont understand") just be realy sweet and spend lots and lots of time with her...like when you guys started going out...tell her shes the most beautifull girl in the world and not only tell her show her but huging her and including her in all the things you do....and soooon she will forget about the net guy and want to be with you again.....good luck
2006-12-14 22:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Kikkis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a person who has been there as the one drawn to the computer, it does do a lot of harm. I almost threw my marriage down the tubes because of my internet flings we'll say. Have a heart to heart, she won't want to hear it but you have to tell her to get through to her. It may not be an affair but emotionally upstairs she will get attached and that's half a serious problem. Fight for her, asking for help here shows your love for her. Go fight and get through to her.
2006-12-14 22:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by pq4u72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate if she loved you she would listen to you an stop, me and mty fiancee have been in that situation a couple of times. Im sorry but if she wont stop for you shes not worth it, her carrying on even tho you have explained how you feel about it to her shows that she dont really love you babe.
2006-12-16 15:54:07 · answer #10 · answered by frogs are cute 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋