If you child was introverted would you behave badly towards them?

Question

I am a 25 year old adult and when I was growing up as a kid, my parents(especially my father) seem to have a vendetta against me because I was very shy growing up as a kid. And because I never went outside or did the things that kids do. I was always so bashful growing up as a kid and I never went out because I was constantly teased and made fun of about my apperance from the other kids and even some adults. Now that I am an adult, I don't have good social skills at all and I feel very uncomfortable when I am in the presence of alot of people. If you had a child who grew up to become a person like me, how would you treat them? And please only serious answers, I don't have time for sarcasm.

Answer 1

Well, I'm like you minus the teasing being the only reason so I would say, accept the child but don't let him become TOO introverted if you know what I mean, you miss out on things you look back on and wish you would've experienced. Just don't force him.

Answer 2

i agree with the guy above me, don't force it but encourage social skills. I'm a bit shy, i have trouble even now going up to people and getting to know them. I'm not exactly open at parties, i'm not comfortable. So the way i've learned to overcome it is just that my friends and family kept suggesting "why don't you just go say hi, start a conversation"...its true though, starting is the hardest part. Let your kid be who they are, but you can always influence them, just suggest little things, crawl before you walk...

Answer 3

Of course not, I am an introvert myself and until 1990 I thought I was emotionally retarded. Then I found out about the work of two American phsychologists Isobel Myers and Katharine Briggs who (satisfactorily explained at least to me) how we human beings interact with each other and how we prefer to direct our energy. Then everything fell into place

If you prefer to direct your energy to deal with people, things, situations, or "the outer world", then your preference is for Extraversion.
If you prefer to direct your energy to deal with ideas, information, explanations or beliefs, or "the inner world", then your preference is for Introversion.
They also spoke about how we humans process information, how we prefer to make decisions and how we like to organise our life.
These are preferences and they don't mean we cannot learn to
deal with those entirely opposite to us.
You must not blame your father for surely he did not know what he was doing as mine who were both extroverts did not.
The key is to understand ourselves and others.
As a consequence we raised our introverted son mindful that his kind is very much in the minority but who is now a happy and well adjusted teenager who is allowed to take his time in getting to know and befriend anyone new who comes into his life.

Answer 4

No..We should not treat our child like that..Because its parents duty to teach everything to child.You have mentioned your problem while in outside.This is my solution for you.You should do some homework to improve your social skills.Practise yourself infront of the mirror like how to smile,how to shake hands,how to speak,etc.You know seeing your image in mirror and practising is a best way to improve skills.Try this method,if you find any changes kindly inform me...