My exboyfriend never hit me...he'd grab me by the hair, punch the wall/bed next to my head, grab me and shake me. He always made me feel as if I had to have sex with him. He'd buy me sex outfits and tell me to wear them. When I didn't, he'd put me on a guilt trip and tell me I didn't love him. He never hit me though...
2006-12-14 14:24:10 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes. its definitely emotional abuse, and thats just as bad as physical and verbal abuse. and it even is physical abuse if he grabbed your hair and shook you. And punching the wall by your head is threatening something. Its good that you got out. this guy was bad news and things were only gonna get worse....guys like that arent generally quality...
2006-12-14 14:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by sunkist3122 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry you may not want to hear this or accept this but this is ALL Abuse!! There are many types of abuse.
Physical- grabbing your hair, grabbing you, and shaking you. Emotional/Mental-hitting the wall beside your head, making you feel bad, telling you that if you didnt do things you didnt love him.
Sexual-making you feel like you had to have sex with him and making you do things that you did not want to do on your own.
Talk with a trusted adult or counselor to help you get over this situation and stay away from the exboyfriend. He needs help. If he is bothering you, you can get a protection order from the police station. good luck.
2006-12-14 14:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Roxanne, your ex boyfriend was abusive - he would attempt to hit you, and pull his punches just short of your head, he would grab you and shake you, he'd make you wear sexualized outfits you didn't want to wear and he coerced you into having sex with him.
He was an abuser (as far as the grabbing and shaking stuff he actually committed a couple of FELONIES there - in New York, that's assault and menacing) and he was also sexually abusive.
You're lucky to be rid of that guy!
I hope you find a real man who deserves you!
2006-12-14 16:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse isn't just hitting. Abuse is emotional and physical. Grabbing you by the hair is wrong, punching the wall/bed is also wrong. You do not have to wear anything that you do not want to wear. Don't put up with this.
Physical abuse: anything that causes harm to a person.
Emotional abuse: anything degrading or makes you feel bad about yourself. your fat, your ugly, you need to wear that or I will leave you, you need to shut up now or I will harm you. If you don't do what whatever, you don't love me.
Hope this helps. Good luck. You deserve better.
2006-12-14 14:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by cheoli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely abuse, physical and mental. Being grabbed and shaken and having your hair pulled are in the same category as being hit.
Between adults, any action that constitutes force is abuse. That can be hair-grabbing, shaking, hitting, or vicious spoken words. It's all bad. That's a bad man you're describing.
2006-12-14 14:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually if he'd grabbed your hair, and punched a wall or whatever else near your head, thats abuse both physical and mental. plus he'd guilt trip you if you didn't want to wear the sexy outfits, and just cause you are b/f and g/f, its not a duty to have sex with him, its still your choice whether he liked it or not
2006-12-14 14:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by Iowa_Bound 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES! that is abuse. maby he has not hit you yet, but the pulling your hair grabbing and shaking you are forms of physical abuse. the actuall hitting comes next. Sex is something you should want to engage in, not be forced into. Baby girl you need to get out of this relationship because it will only get worse.
2006-12-14 14:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by ltonyasfun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, since he never hit you, you always felt safe-right?
Of course this was abuse! Anytime someone loses control and pulls your hair or punches a wall he is abusing you mentally as well as physically.
I'm glad you say "ex" boyfriend. Never, ever let yourself get into a situation like that again. You deserve to be treated better.
2006-12-14 14:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is other abuse than physical abuse of hitting. The hair pulling is physical abuse. The hitting the wall next to you is mental abuse (trying to scare you). If you told him no and he still forced you to have sex, that is rape (huge deal if you press charges against him and have proof of it). Get out of the relationship fast!!
2006-12-14 15:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by KJ97Y100 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he abused you. Grabbing you by the hair and shaking you is definitely physical abuse, the sex thing is sexual abuse and making you feel guilty is emotional. Yeah, I'd say you were abused.
2006-12-14 15:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by Violet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋