he says i'm too jealous and that he does not know her very well even though they met at work a couple of months ago he says they never saw each other outside work before that trip
2006-12-14 14:19:07 · 14 answers · asked by morena c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
then why are they going on a trip together? Personally i dont think its right. He should be going on this trip with YOU not some random woman he met. It seems very sketchy
if its a work trip then i guess its slightly more understandable but i'd still feel uncomfortable. He shouldn't be sayin you are too jealous he should be doing everything he can to make you feel mosre comfortable. try talking to him about how this is makin you feel without accusing him of cheating.
2006-12-14 14:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by sunkist3122 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something very fishy to me. The only weekend trip an engaged man should be taking with a woman should be with the person he is engaged to. If it was a weekend trip that was work related I think he should be more than happy to try and include you and if not I'd think twice about this guy. When you become engaged it is to make a commitment of one man to one woman and not one man to this woman and maybe this woman and so forth. I'd tell him straight out that you are not comfortable with this and I'd rethink the engagement before it is too late. Divorce is a high price to pay and you need to hold your head high and remember that you deserve the best.
2006-12-14 22:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by lucky_lady_blazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes, that's cheating. Even if nothing is going on, no sensible man would do that while engaged.
This isn't going to get better after you're married. People are on their best behavior before the marriage and even shortly thereafter. This is a transgression that no normal woman would accept and any sensible man would know that -- and wouldn't do it.
Cut your losses. This will go nowhere but downhill. His behavior is a warning to you. If you continue in this relationship and marry this guy, you will have no right to complain when he cheats on you. You've been warned -- by him.
If you are a nice person, there are other men you could marry who would be better suited to you and who would appreciate you and who would never want to do something like this. If you are not a nice person, maybe you've got the right guy?
Give the ring back and get on with your life.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-14 22:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be VERY concerned if I were you. If he is engaged to you, then he shouldn't going on the trip with that other woman. He really should be thinking about a weekend trip with you, the woman he SAYS he wants to spend the rest of his life with. If he does go on this trip, then my advice is DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT even think about marrying him. For him to go on this trip with this other woman while he is engaged to you is a serious misjudgement call on his part. That jerk really should know better. Better yet, just call the wedding off altogether if he does make the trip.
2006-12-14 22:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he goes, it is over, and that you will be making plans to go out on a trip with another man too. It aint right at all. Youre silly to even have to ask for our opinions before making a decision. You need to put your foot down.
2006-12-14 22:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what u r telling me is that your fiance went on a weekend trip with another woman and you knew about it? was it a business thing that they both had to go on or something? u make it sound like a getaway. Or did they just go on atrip together? If he just went away with some woman for the weekend to get to know her or something that is definitely way uncool, don't stay with him, but if its for work, what can you do?
2006-12-14 22:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by frostytink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is silly!!! What man in his right mind would go on a trip with another woman who he barely knows? And WHY is he going with her, Is the question.
2006-12-14 22:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was engaged to someone who was taking a trip with a female, wether he knows her or not, I would blow a gasket.
I would ask these questions: Why is he going with her and not you? Is this going to be a trend through out your marriage?
If it is, rethink things.
2006-12-14 22:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by little1missy1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the trip business and with lots of other co-workers? If not, it is pure temptation and will lead to cheating, and he should not marry.
2006-12-14 22:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depends on what goes on on that weekend trip.
2006-12-14 22:21:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋