I am pregnant... The man Im pregnant by is super bossy with MY 8 year old daughter..... He means well, but my daughter hates him ! He hasn't spanked her, but speaks a little rough with her at times if she dont mind him...... Her real dad signed off on her, and I dont want to raise another child alone..........What would you do in a case like this ? Kick him to the curb ? What can I say w/out causing a big stink ? Any advise ?
2006-12-14 14:15:48 · 8 answers · asked by Missy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is your daughter and she needs to come before him. If you disagree with how he is treating her then you need to speak up. Especially since your going to be parents together. He may not even realize that he is being to strong. If his parents were strong with him as a kid that may be the only thing he knows. Let him know that your glad he can help parent but that it needs to be equal parenting. Sit down some basic rule that you can both stick by when it comes to punishment. If such and such happen then the punishment will be? Let him know he doesn't have to be bossy when telling her to do something. He can tell her nicely to do something. If she doesn't do it then maybe there should be a small punishment such as take away TV time, take away a special treat, or something to that effect. So that he will learn not to be bossy but she can learn to follow the rules.
2006-12-14 14:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In your place, I'd do what it takes to get unpregnant first. If you enjoy the man as a lover, have him as a lover, with effective birth control to avoid getting pregnant. Have a trustworthy female friend stay with your daughter and sleep with this man at his place if you want. DON'T allow him in your house with your daughter. Many men not only don't like children who aren't theirs, they are jealous and inappropriate with them and may progress to open violence toward or sexual abuse of these children.
Or, if he's no particular pleasure as a lover, kick him to the curb and scout around for a nicer man. The world is full of bad men who deserve to be left to themselves, and nice men who deserve the company of nice women.
Your lover has NO right to speak any way other than politely and respectfully to your daughter. She's in her home; he's not in his. It is a bad sign that he doesn't respect this basic turf issue.
2006-12-14 14:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look into getting some counseling. With people like that, there is rarely a way to break through without outside help. There are several foundations and most churches and community centers can point you to a good counselor.
2006-12-14 14:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by famousevan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try talking to him but calm and if it dosent work then ya kick him 2 the curb and find someone nice and not that bossy but be4 u do try one more thing try get perfsonaly help
good luck
2006-12-14 14:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by meow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand, are you saying that your mother is a baby? And if she is a baby, which I clearly can't see how that can be, what do you mean "bossy"? Is she demanding something or telling you what to do or something like that?
2016-03-29 07:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definitely get him help. Bullies are usually just insecure, or oblivious to the trauma they cause. Put him in long term social situations, like community activities, or church or whatever, in which he will feel pressured to change his behaviour, and where he will be forced to see that he can't act that way. Best wishes to you.
2006-12-14 14:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him to the curb
2006-12-14 14:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him to the curb... unless you want to live like that forever.
2006-12-14 14:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by Caitlin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋