Why Do Married Men Cheat?

Question

Are you a married male who cheats? Can you give me a little insight on why married men cheat? Serious answers only please....

May be I should rephrase.... Can a Male capable of deep thought give me a well thought out answer as to why you have or may know someone who has cheated on their wife. I am a female I know why women do it, however women and men think differently, so I am truly seeking male thoughts on this one thxs.

Answer 1

I am not a man, and I know you are asking for answers from men, but I can tell you why my husband cheated. His father died four years ago. He was a wealthy man with alot of business dealings. My husband was named executor of the estate. My husband is a creative, not a business man. He was forced to leave his job as a professional artist (in which he did extremely well at) to be able to adequately take care of his father's after-death business. For three years, he worked from the time he got up to the time he went to bed dealing with lawyers, accountants and other businessmen that were not part of his world. During the third year, he became very depressed because the creative side of him was dying, but thanks to his father and the fact he was an only child, he could not get out from under the weight of the estate. Also during this time, a woman that he worked with contacted him to see if "how his marriage was" and "if he was interested in swinging". (She was married, but her husband had already given her the boot and she was looking for a meal ticket {she knew my husband had come into money}) My husband is a man, and when things aren't right in the upper head, men start to think with the lower one, and he saw this woman as an escape from all the heavy stress he was under. She lived in another state at the time, but their pornographic correspondence went on for seven months. He had to go to a convention where she lived and of course she came the his hotel and did him (after he consumed $150 worth of alcohol- what a compliment to her!). Because she did not live near, he made her into more than she actually was. His imagination took her from the short overweight chunk she was and made her into his ideal look. She took every complaint he had about his life and turned it around to convince him I was the cause of all of his stress, and he being weak believed her. She convinced him that instead of the stress of marriage and being a father, that he should leave me and his daughter and join her in the party/swinging lifestyle. He came to me for a divorce at this point and I was totally taken aback because except for the stress coming from the estate, I thought we as a couple were just fine. Fortunately for me, this woman started talking marriage to him and this made him wake up. Marriage wasn't part of any picture he saw himself in with her- he wouldn't have been seen in public with her, let alone marry her. This forced his imaginary life and reality to collide, and in doing so, he woke up and realized how badly he had screwed up. He kicked her to the curb in a very blunt way and has spent the last year non-stop making it up to me. I just want people to know that affairs happen even when your marriage is fine and that they have so much more to do with stress and pain the person is personally enduring than they ever have to do with not being happy with the spouse. There is no blanket reason these things happen and we as a society need to be more evolved when it comes to the way we handle affairs. Not all people that have them are jerks or *******, they're just people, with faults, that can make mistakes, just like any of you out there. No one is immune. I hope this helps.

Answer 2

There is no particular single or best reason for cheating. I think it has more to do with the natural insatiability of man. Man's needs and wants are insatiable. No two women are the same, so after you explore one, there is that longing to discover what the next one may feel like.
There are many married men who do not cheat. Some have been able to inculcate a certain degree of discipline which helps them keep to their wives. Some others may be lacking in boldness to carry out such a covert activity because that is what it is. For others, the right opportunity has not arrived yet.

Answer 3

Unfortunately in this life, people cheat, men and
women, they just dont take those marriage vows
seriously; some cultures think it is acceptable,
some should just not get married, at all, most
of the time the trouble is sex,money, or boredom.
well, that is what u have to think about before u
take that 'big step'. I am divorced twice, one because
of a cheater, and the second time because of alcohol,
but the third time around, I had my senses with me
and looked before I took that final step, so if you have
problems that u think can't be resolved while still in
the 'engagement stage' then get out then, better a
broken engagement, then a broken heart and marriage.

Answer 4

Hey , I think that people cheat because they are too shallow or chicken to communicate the problem w/ their spouse or they are trying to get out of their current situation and don't realize that cheating will just make another situation , I say just remember what made you fall in love with that person to begin with and keep that fresh in mind at all times .
After all the hardest thing about marriage is staying married.

Answer 5

they don't want to invest time or energy into working on their marriage, they lack self control, they are insecure, and lack intregety. they think they have found someone wonderful, better than what they had, and they can always find a reason to justify what they do, threre is always a reason to just get up and walk out, but in reality, they are selfish, and lack insight, don't care about consequences, and show no respect or love for the woman he married. what they don't realiaze is that in a year or so they will be facing the same issues, and problems, as they did with their wives. because the real problem was within them, and had they changed their wife would have looked alot different to them.

Answer 6

they meaning men and women cheat because they are lacking something at home. if your mate wants to try something different, just try it what harm can it be. unless it is something really crazy. sometimes its not always about the sex, that people are lacking. sometimes it the attention, and if someone is giving them that outside the house u got trouble. but one must remember u did what u did to get that person, and when u get that person, u still have to keep doing whatever it was u did in the first place to make him/her happy. ladies if u are home all day , and your man comes home. make sure u look good for him too. cause if he is out working all day around all types of women, and he comes home to a hot mess, there is your answer. !!!!!!!!!! good luck

Answer 7

It happens for many reasons, alot of the time he is just in the right place at the right time. Most of the time the girl he cheats with means nothing to him, just another notch in his gun so to speak, the thrill of the hunt, and thinking with the wrong head or not at all. And I don't think most guys have the capacity to think ahead about how this will affect his girl friend, wife or lover, how it will crush their soul and rip their heart out. Moral standards are at an all time low and there is just not very many true gentlemen left today.

Answer 8

Mostly because they are looking for something that's missing in their marriage. It could be sex, companionship, feeling of being stuck in current relationship, happiness and some just to cheat, but it takes two ! so why do women end up having affairs with married men esp when they know that they are married ?

Answer 9

Cheating is just what it is called. If a man denies his wife affection and gets his cookies from somebody else, he is taking care of his needs while denying hers. Men get energy and get a high from getting away with this behavior or being forgiven while their wives have to earn affection and are not forgiven for their shortcomings. That is the double standard.

Answer 10

Not all but some. But same goes for women too. No one is a total angel. Don't be so jaded and there is always going to be that one someone you don't have to worry about cheating. IF this is about your marriage then try to work on it. If you are the other woman walk away and do research next time. IF there is something missing more then likely he is either married or bi... Good Luck