ok i had this ex who one day in a jam i called to help me out on moving my truck to home all she had to do was drive it, when i got home i left to pick up my daughter while gone my ex got on my cell and called up my new girlfriend and said howe were seeing each other , when we weren't problem 8is i never told new girlfriend that i ask her for help so it looks bad but did not even kissher no copping a feel nothing but when the ex started talking **** now i'm in the dog house new girlfriend thinks this is cheating granted what she thinks matters most but as a second opinion what do ya think
2006-12-14 13:46:10 · 22 answers · asked by freeby1011 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the only reason i asked her was because there was no one else to ask , but she was cheated on before not by me bit just the same , i agree i should have been more honest
2006-12-14 13:59:56 · update #1
just tel her straigh up. ttell her there was no kissing hugg ing ect. and that you needed help moving and she was the only one avalible.Tell her that you think of the ex as a friend, and cantfriends help friends move??? If she doesnt trust you enough then why have a realation ship when you c ould be out there with some one new? it doenst make sense. all you have to do is sweet talk her and tell her the truth if you start arguin, tell her that you dont want to fight and that you love her. it might work consider it. GOODL UCK WITH THE LOVERlol!
2006-12-14 13:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you cheated. I do however think your current girlfriend has a right to wonder if she can trust you, and that is even worse. Your intentions were probably pure, and you meant NO harm. But we woman need to be able to trust our Man, and now your girlfriend can't help but wonder "What else don't I know about?" Your EX was trying to cause problems, but you created the situation. Sit down and see each others point of view. Really put yourself in each others shoe, then agree to forgive and move on. True love can prevail - and that will show the EX that she didn't win!
2006-12-14 21:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never call this "cheating", but like you said, I'm not her. "Deception by omission" is a more acurate phrase for what went on. You didn't tell your gf because you knew nothing was going to happen (and nothing did!) but you knew she would be upset, so you chose not to tell her. I think honesty is always the best policy. Tell her you're sorry and that you only did it because you were in a jam and that you didn't mention it to her because it wasn't important enough to mention. If she can't trust you and appreciate your honesty, she is the one at fault here (IMO). Also, as for the ex, if she is going to pull sh*t like that, you need to cut her off completely. She is no good to your relationship.
2006-12-14 21:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Seggers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said its not what you think, but what your current girl thingks. Since she thinks its cheating then Its cheating. You are going to have to ask her to forgive you, for asking your ex to give you a hand. You should have maybe asked her instead. You should also let your ex know that she was out of line doing what she did, calling your girl and talking trash behind your back like that. She sounds like trouble and you should probably stay away from her and tell her to leave you alone. Good Luck!!! sounds like you might need it
2006-12-14 21:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Iowa_Bound 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have called anyone else but your ex to help you out. I don.t blame your girlfriend for being mad. I would be to. It is never a good idea to call on the ex that is unless you did not happen to have a girlfriend then it would have been ok.
2006-12-14 21:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating but you weren't completely honest with your girlfriend. Everything would have been different if you would have simply told her the truth. She'll probably need time to get over this little "thing" but I'm sure that she'll realize that you didn't cheat on her... Good luck
2006-12-14 21:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, of course it isn't cheating. Your girlfriend needs to learn to trust you. I don't know how new your relationship is, but clearly you're with her now. She may be insecure about your relationship, but you just need to reassure her that nothing is going on. What your ex did was really low, though; so perhaps you shouldn't be asking her for too many favors.
2006-12-14 21:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by NetAngel8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have called your current even if you knew she couldn't help. If you really want to keep this girl let her know how you feel and be sincere. It may take some time so get to work and be careful and stay away from your exs
2006-12-14 21:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by dnisey64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your girlfriend is just scared. She probably is nervous losing you. especially to your ex. just try to explain to her more what the real deal was. Alot of woman do this and men don't understand it. Sometimes we don't know what to do in these situations and we as woman have a tendency to freak out so we take out on ourselves then it ends up becoming stress, then she just freaks out on you. If she really loves you she should understand, and if she really trusts you then shes a keepa. But if you feel untusted by her or ignored by her then just explain to her in a calm adult, boyfriend and girlfriend way and hopefuly it works out for u!!!!
2006-12-14 21:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not cheating.That ex of yours has a big mouth and obviously still wants you or is jealous of your new girlfriend .Any way why didn't you ask your new girlfriend to help you out ?
2006-12-14 21:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by GellyBelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋