my brother-in-law has money and is a very nice man. he buys what he wants to buy; money is not an object. I do not have it that way. I just feel that my present will seem little compared to his. I know he understands the difference in our financial situations, but still??!!
2006-12-14 13:21:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
What's the deal with the (in)?
Is it inexpensive or expensive? and "mor"? what the heck is that?
You spending too much time at the mall? Shopping got your brain fried?
Anyway... now that I know you're being a cheapskate this Christmas, I'm returning your gift and giving you Lincoln Logs instead!
2006-12-15 02:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 19:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that the value of the gift is in the GIVING.
Try to think about his personality and his likes and dislikes and get him something he would actually use even though he could buy it for himself; he may not have thought of it.
For instance: Does he love drinking the Starbucks coffee? Then get him one of their mugs.
Is he a white collar worker? Then a really nice pen set is always useful. You could even get him a new brief case or a portfolio with his name engraved on the cover plate.
He will appreciate the thought and knows what your financial circumstances are. He would probably feel worse if he knew that you spent far above your means. That isn't the purpose of giving.
He will appreciate the "thought" you put into selecting his gift specifically for him.
2006-12-15 00:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are human. You understand he's happy with being thought of. I know it's hard not to feel bad about your description that you gave, but don't. He would feel bad if you spent more money than you could afford comfortably. I have a friend that is unemployed and losing his rental, and I bought him a gift. If he bought me one, I would be pissed at him for doing it. Not because I don't want a gift, but because he's spending money he doesn't have. I'm sure your brother-in-law feels the same way. Christmas isn't about putting yourself in debt for 12 months.
2006-12-14 13:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by JoninCT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always try to make homemade crafts for gifts for all my chosen receivers. This way, if they like it, they can be jealous of me and my talent and it isn't something they can go out and buy.
I've only had one relative put away a small project I worked on but have been there when other guest were around and saw this project and asked where they got it because they like it so much and wanted it too, and though it a great idea when they found out it was custom made. I know it makes me feel better anyway!
2006-12-14 13:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by onecharliecat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you feel bad? For those of us out here who live with different financial circumstances in our families -- it is the THOUGHT behind the gift that counts -- not the cost (and that is for sure). We know that the one who gets these gifts appreciate our THOUGHTFULNESS .. and to be remembered by another on Christmas Day -- well that is the Greatest Gift one can receive.
2006-12-14 13:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion people have forgotten the true meaning of Christmas. Presents should not be judge on the value they should be judged on the "thought".
Love - that's the true meaning of Christmas. John 3:16:17 says "for God so loved the world, that He gave His only
begotten son, that whosoever believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting Life. For God sent not his son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.
The above is the true meaning of Christmas not the monetary gifts.
May you and your family have a Merry Christmas & Happy New Year.
2006-12-14 14:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by debster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you're rich or poor, it's better to give from the heart than to give from the pocketbook.
Your brother-in-law understands your situation. He's not looking for your gift to "equal" his. He'll be happy with any nice, thoughtful thing you give him.
You might give him a book, CD, or video that reflects his favorite interests. You might buy him a toy or ornament that reflects something nice he did for you this year. (For example, if he bought you a car or paid for your car repairs, get him a Matchbox or Hot Wheels car.) You might take him to a concert or play or sporting event. You might get him one of those special gourmet food baskets--even a small one--or order a special chocolate from Hersheys.com.
Get him something you can afford that you believe he'd love to have.
2006-12-14 13:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, don't feel badly. Most of us are in the same situation, as you always will be in your life. Can you think of something personal for him? A framed photo? An ornament for his tree? Something homemade? Remember, it is not about the money. Give his gift some thought and I am sure he will love anything you give him, as he loves YOU ! Merry Christmas !
2006-12-14 13:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by Lynne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't the cost of the gift it is the heart that thought of it. He sounds like a great guy and am sure he will appreciate whatever you have chosen to give him,add a hug that will make it even better Merry Christmas at least you thought of him
2006-12-14 14:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋