My husband found some e-mails in which i was flirting with an ex-coworker. Nothing X rated, but it did mention kissing. Nothing happened, nor was it ever intended to. Is that being unfaithful?
2006-12-14 13:18:55 · 26 answers · asked by jag3195 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think so..
2006-12-14 13:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by (^_^) CHiccaaqui(^_^) 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfaithful? Well, I think that means different things to different people. I guess you really need to ask yourself what your motives were in doing this. If you were trying to get something going then I'd say this really gets into the gray area, heading more and more toward impropriety.
You also need to ask yourself how you would feel if the shoe were on the other foot. If it would bother you then I think that's a pretty good clue that maybe you need to change your behavior.
Let's face it, a lot of people are pretty insecure. And your actions would only add to any insecurity already present. It's too damned easy to hurt a person's feelings without meaning to... I'm not sure this is a very good place to go if your relationship means anything to you.
And that brings me to another proint... Wouldn't all this effort spent on flirting -- be better spent on trying to make things better and more interesting with your husband?
The grass is always greener but let me assure you that when you jump the fence, the grass browns up pretty damned fast. My advice to you is to work on what you've got and avoid investing energy in things that just aren't going to bring you good things in the long term.
If you're unhappy in your relationship, either make it better or consider getting out of it. Do you really care whether or not this is cheating? Sounds to me like you're just trying to justify your behavior (and my guess is that your own actions have made you a bit uncomfortable).
Stop flirting with the ex-coworker and start flirting with your husband.
Good luck to you and your husband.
2006-12-14 21:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this: If the shoe was on the other foot and you found some e-mails in which your husband was flirting with an ex-coworker that mentioned kissing, would that be okay with you??
2006-12-14 21:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional connections.
Flirting at the office is one thing, flirting on line is something else.
If you're going to start confiding things to "guy friends", why do you need the husband.
Did you cheat? Well anytime there is mention of physical contact it sounds to me you were cheating. Not bad, but if your husband was doing the same thing, how would you feel? If a female friend told you her husband was chatting on line to some "other woman" and it involved touching, kissing, etc., what would you tell her?
Yes, in my opinion you cheated.
2006-12-14 21:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by Geo-Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is defined by the two people in a relationship - if he thinks it's cheating or you feel guilt it's cheating. OK, so you didn't get physical that should make the slip easier to deal with but you breached a trust and that may take some time to repair. Use this as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship. Good Luck!
2006-12-14 21:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it wasn't cheating but it was a really lowlife move.
He should be very upset with you.
You should be very apologetic.
What were you thinking having that kind of correspondence with any guy not your husband. Its just another woman game which leads to marital strife for no reason except you wanted to do it.
You deserve to be hurt back.
2006-12-14 21:35:37 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're married. Shouldn't you be flirting with your husband. Why play with fire. Flirting with someone else is like the gateway drug that can lead to something more.
2006-12-14 21:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by water.bratz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some would say it is cheating and some not.
I would say you are untrustworthy, which leads to speculation to whether you have ever cheated. You obviously have no problem with it to be talking about doing it with someone.
2006-12-14 21:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... I guess it could be considered cheating if you *did* kiss the ex-coworker and not just talk about kissing.
2006-12-14 21:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not cheating at all.
You still love your husband.
It would be chating, only if you physically had encounter with your ex-coworker. Your husband needs to get over with it. And for you, please stop flirting. :)
2006-12-14 21:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by Nirav 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say no if it was just flirting, but because it involved kissing, than yes.
2006-12-14 21:22:06 · answer #11 · answered by Voodoo Experience 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋