Will I ever get pregnant again is thinking this way normal???

Question

I'm only 17 and i got pregnant in july of this year by august i had my first miscarriage I was thrilled i was going to have a baby Ive honestly been trying to get pregnant for a year now not so my boyfriend would stay with me but bc i want a baby Is this normal? Is there anything i can do to help me get pregnant I really want a baby?????

Answer 1

are you mature and ready to get all of the repercussions of having a child at such a young age? if you are ready for that, you have a full time job, own a house, and know that you will work your hardest to keep your life stable for this child, then you are ready. are you ready to drop everything for it, say at work? what if your boss was threatening to fire you, but your child's school was calling? would you rush out or would you be forced to stay at work? what if your boyfriend DID leave? would you be able to keep going? im just worried about this commitment you want to make. the idea of having a child is enthralling, but its difficult, and you need to be ready for whatever life throws your way. what if your parents kicked you out? not saying that they would, i have no reason to make assumptions, but what if? you need to consider all of the what ifs.

Answer 2

I have been with my husband since the age of 16~~started living with him at that age also. I wanted a baby BADLY! I got pregnant at 17 and had a son. He unfortunately passed away as an infant, but I went on to have 6 daughters in the next 10 years. I am now 28 with 6 beautiful daughters.
I was a mature 16-17 years old. I was working full time up until I got pregnant and was basically a housewife while my friends were partying. I missed out on a lot of youth. BUT, I wouldn't have had it any other way. I knew I wanted children and noone was going to tell me otherwise.
My only question is for you is what happens if you and your boyfriend split up? Are you commited? Living together? Getting pregnant while living at home I could NOT even imagine. It isn't your age that worries me because I know 25 year olds that act like 13 year olds and 16 year olds who act like 30 year olds. It is your situation.
Just think about you and your babys future and then come to a conclusion. Where would you live? How would you live? Things like that.
If after that you still want a baby then I would suggest stop worrying about it. Me and my husband tried for 6 months before I got pregnant and it was all over stress of wanting to get pregnant.
Good Luck.....and really think about it.

Answer 3

Yes, you can still get pregnant. As a teenage mother myself, I strongly suggest that you wait a while. I had my daughter when I was seventeen. I am at a point in my life where I was lucky to have graduated highschool let alone get a diploma. I can not provide for my child as well as I could have if I had just waited. My children are the light of my life, but if I knew then what I know now, I certainly would have waited until I was a little more stable. Raising a child never gets easier. The first little while, you don't get sleep because they are up every 2-3 hours hungry. After that stage, they get pretty cranky with teething and seem quite inconsolable. The list goes on and on. Just talk to a bunch of teen mothers you know about how tough it really is. I wanted a baby too, I just didn't realize how much work it is. For the sake of any child you may have and for yours as well, please wait.

Answer 4

Yes. Your body is at the stage where it is prime for baby making. I first wanted a baby when I was seventeen. I'm not sure why this happens, but I've heard a lot of other girls feeling the same way.

The only thing I didn't see was all the work it took to raise a baby. I was niave. I thought I would love it and hold it. But, I couldn't support myself. I was struggling to make my car payment and rent payment. When my car broke down I had to call my parents for a loan. It was not easy at that point...

Please be careful. Make sure you are financially secure. Money won't just appear you have to have the skills to go get it. And, you'll make a way to make it work require lots of hard labor and sleepless nights.

A partner to help support you and the baby is your best asset.

Our family makes over $100,000 a year and it isn't easy raising one baby. There is always formula, we're only on 4 bottles so one can goes a week. Still, that's 80 bucks in formula. Then diapers...he's not using them like a newborn so we only spend 30 a month. But, it's the shoes now that he's walking...and the coats...we're already on his SECOND winter coat...and I bought a size bigger both times. Hopefully this one will last us...

Answer 5

First off - yes chances are you will get pregant again. Just because you've had a miscarriage it does not mean you are unable to get pregnant.

Secondly, I know this is the LAST thing you want to hear but having a baby at 17 is an extremely hard and difficult task to take on. I am 30 am married and for me, there are days that it is difficult. It sounds like you really are lonely and need something to love in your life. But having a baby at this stage of your life is something you aren't ready for, no matter how much you think you are. There are so many more life experiences you need to go through!

Please, please talk to someone about this - a counselor, parent or another adult you can trust. At 17 you should be dreaming about what car you'd like or which college you'd like to go to NOT about a child.

I wish you luck!

Answer 6

You wont have a good life if you don't go to college....so first get that out of the way.....I personally went to the military and got married and pregnant....well i got divorced and finally got out of the military...luckily at my last command I met the man of my life...and he is here to help me finish my education. I am finishing my associates degree and have 2 more years left....but without him, I dont' know what I'd do bymyslef....it would be hard or I'd give up on going to school and get stuck at a regular job. Or if you have family that will support you and do support your decision....then if you really think you are ready, go for it. If I didn't have my fiance, I'd be living with my grandparents and going to school from there. But remember.....its not like wanting a puppy......its a lifetime commitment....not 18 years....but lifetime. It is definatly worth it but it takes sacrifices....no more partying or going out with girlfriends...or drinking(not around your child at least and rarely) no drugs AT ALL if you do that.....many sacrifices.......are you very unselfish.....because if so...then you will be ok...but if you only care about yourself...please dont bring a child into the world that you cannot give your entire life to.

Answer 7

I would wait till you are older. I was 17 once and wanted a baby since I was 16. I made myself wait until I was 24. And now I am glad I did. Cause boy does it trap you. Amazing how getting what you want suddenly changes when you get it! Like the saying 'be careful what you wish for'. Kids are good, but wait at least until you are 21. Because then you are trapped and tied down. It is fun being a parent, but it basically kills any life outside of being mommy.

Answer 8

I am sure you can get pregnant again provided you keep yourself healthy, HOWEVER, I think everything happens for a reason and if you miscarried, maybe it just wasn't your time or the right situation for you to be in yet.

I, personally, think 17 is pretty young. It is completely normal to want a baby.....that maternal instinct, etc....and I am totally trying to knock your age...but there so much life out there and life changes SOOOOO much from being 17.

Hang in there...and when the time is right, it will happen!!!!

Answer 9

You will get pregnant again, but before going and getting yourself pregnant, ask yourself these questions have i been with my boyfriend long enough and are we going to be together forever ? Am i happy to just grow up and skip going out to the pub with mates, going clubbing? Is my job enough to support me and a baby?
Having a baby is huge, it needs to be thought about heaps and are you willing to do it yourself because if you have a baby you are mum and you are going to have to grow up real fast move out of home and is your partner willing to let you be a stay at home mum while he goes out to support the family working five days a week. . . Lots to think about there . . . Good Luck Hope thats helpful to you,I am seventeen and have a son so i know all about it

Answer 10

First of all--Having a baby will NOT make your boyfriend stay with you. Do you even BEGIN to understand how many women make the mistake of thinking that a baby will make a man stay with them???? Second--You have all the time in the world to do this! And I guarantee that you do not have the means to support a child right now. Who do you think is going to support your child? Your parents? Because you won't be able to afford to. Your boyfriend won't be able to, because he's going to have to kiss any dream of college goodbye so he can get a job and send child support checks to you. He'll resent you for that eventually, you know. Do you want to spend the rest of your life living at or below the poverty level? That's where the majority of teenage mothers wind up. And how fair is it going to be to your child to be made fun of at school, because the bus picks him/her up in front of the "poor" housing? And because they don't have the trendiest clothes, or the best toys, etc. Just because you WANT a baby, doesn't mean that you should have one. If you decide right now--for purely selfish reasons--to have a baby, then you are a BAD MOTHER! Graduate from school, get a job, get your own place, get yourself into a position where you can support yourself, THEN have a baby. I get so furious reading questions like these from ignorant kids. I literally want to cry reading your question. You can't even BEGIN to understand what it is you're planning to undertake. If you make one good, mature, responsible decision in your life, make THIS the one. For the sake of your child. This is NOT something you want to screw up. Do the right thing. Please.