It's like we talk and talk and i feel like i always keep the convos going and her answers are like one word answers and then its like AH she sometimes makes me mad i wish she would say what it is she is thinking and other times its like she is mad at me for even talking to her, what should i do?
2006-12-14 13:14:44 · 11 answers · asked by charmed12184 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For one thing, maybe she's shy. OR she might not feel like you *let* her talk! Why not ask her more open-ended questions? Instead of just yes or no questions, ask what she thinks about such and such an issue. If you know what she's interested in, you could talk about issues surrounding that. Otherwise, you could talk to her about it. Just say you don't want to take up the whole conversation. Do you interrupt her or get distracted when she's trying to talk? I sometimes stop talking if the person I'm talking to doesn't seem like they're paying attention. You really have to focus on her but not to the point that it makes her feel judged or uncomfortable. Say more about what she said so she knows you want to talk more about what she cares about too. She may just think you don't care. Trust me. I can be insecure too. Once I open up though, I'm not as sensitive about interruptions or other conversational things.
2006-12-14 13:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really wish to keep this relationship with her, you should just remain calm with her and let her open-up to you at her own pace. Some people just need time to become comfortable with others. It's sort-of like getting in a swimming pool for the first time--one person might be able to jump right in and be comfortable with the cold water, yet another person might have to step in inch-by-inch at the steps in order to become comfortable with the temperature.
2006-12-14 13:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through a similar thing. She probably has a lot on her mind or she is feeling a little depressed. Try to give her a little space. You can also ask her is something is wrong and if she wasn't listening or says that nothing is wrong, then point out her distance lately and see how she reacts.
2006-12-14 13:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her this? Maybe you should just push her to open up, Or she may just come around. tell her that youre always there for her no matter what , That you have her back, & Have two sholder & two ears open for her at anything.
She might not feel comfortable talk ing to you about whats wrong, She might think that you will be judge mental about it.
just tell her that you are there for her.
2006-12-14 13:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth1616 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you feel she's not open with you. Tell her whatever it is she could be hiding, you want to be there for her because you are her friends. Ask her is she upset with you. If not, then don't be too upset, not everyone is so out spoken. Don't get fustrated, get a grip and just really sit down with her.
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2006-12-14 13:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion,the girl is not interested in you. You should keep distance from her for a while, one for her to think about that you are not that easily to get, two for yourself to consider or plan how to attract her.
Remember, never intend to catch a girl's heart by chasing her all around, on the contrary, attracting her by your own wisdom or your intelligence!
2006-12-14 13:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by smarttany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes not confortable with you talking to you.
shes also shy and unsociable.
your going to have to wait for her to catch up.
your doing good.keep talking to her make her laugh.
when people laugh ecspecially girls when they laugh all the other words start to come out.
2006-12-14 13:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by Grack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that she doesn't feel like talking to you.
Give her some space just to see if she reaches out to you.
2006-12-14 13:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her how u feel...if u want to stay friends you need to straighten things out or ur friendship isnt going to last...
2006-12-14 13:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by amber j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she doesn't express more in answers. Just talk to her friend to friend.
2006-12-14 13:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋