what do you do when you love somone ,cant see them with someone else ,but the spark is not there like when you were first in love and wanted to have sex all da time?
2006-12-14 12:53:56 · 13 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that spark does fade over time...hopefully there is enough other good stuff to make up for that....trust, love, laughter, communciation, fun, sex, loyalty, honor, commitment, joy, more laughter....get my drift?????
2006-12-14 12:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the spark isn't there and you love someone, will the relationship survive with just sex. Kinda hard to answer because you don't say if you and him are together or just broke up and you still love him. But from what you do say is you love him and in a physical way because the spark is called love isn't there. Maybe later on the spark might come back never know. But wouldn't it be kinda depressing to be with someone and not love him. Well hey the only thing to do is if you love him and he loves you why not get together. But if you like him becasue of sex why bother. If I was teh guy and if the sex was good I guess I would keep cumming back everyday.
2006-12-14 13:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Re: Whoever said to go with an open relationship--If she said that she can't stand to see him with someone else, how exactly would an open relationship "help with anxiety about infidelity"??? That is absolutely ridiculous...
To the original poster,
As others have said, the sparks are loads of fun--but sadly, they do fade in time, and you're left with the foundation of your relationship. Where you go from here hinges on how you built your relationship from the beginning.
You say that you love him--so fan those flames! It's easy if you put some effort into it, to rekindle the sparks of infatuation in a loving relationship; if it weren't, there would be a lot fewer successful long-term relationships out there.
Go buy yourself some pretty lingerie and perfume (or whatever), and seduce your man!
Even if you aren't into it (or don't think you are), it's a sure way to get excited--come on, what woman doesn't love buying new things, especially pretty things!
2006-12-14 13:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sparks come and go. Sparks are just infatuation. Sparks are fairly meaningless really. When you love someone, sometimes you don't even like them and sometimes you can't stand the sight of the them. If you're commited to them, you'll soon learn that those feelings pass just like sparks. So, what do you do? Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person and them wanting the same with you or is it just a fling?
2006-12-14 12:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. create the spark again by suprise dinner, picnic and kinky sex. Getting comfortable w ur partner is common and its not the end of the relationship
xxx
2006-12-14 12:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off. Don't be selfish. Believe me, I understand what you're going through. If you're not feeling it like you should to be in a relationship with him..then do both of you a favor and let it go.
Good luck!
2006-12-14 12:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by Somebody's Afta Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is when you must decide which road you shall take, go with the one you love or stay with the one your with. Hmm - sounds pretty simple really. Good Luck!
2006-12-14 12:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...sorry but the spark thing is brain hormones of love and it can not last forever but it can be addictive ... That's life .... love changes grows matures and it's not perfect
2006-12-14 12:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss the problem with him..
If there is no fixing it...
Maybe both of you feel the same way and
you will both agree it is best to go each go
your seperate ways...
2006-12-14 13:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with an open marriage. It allows both you and the dude to sample what's out there and still go home to each other. Reduces the anxiety about infidelity.
2006-12-14 12:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋