help with the man i love?

Question

can any one help me i am i love with my husband and have been for almost 6 years but we are starting to fight all the time now and in a way i want him gone but in a way i want him to stay can any one help me please if you could give me some ideas thanks

Answer 1

You stated that you are in love with him, there's really no need to dissolve the marriage on account of a few fights. Simply talk your problems through in a amicable way and seek to find viable solutions that would facilitate and reasonable resolution to your diffiiculties. Fights are natural but preventable so before you opt to end the marriage, think about the consequences you'll face. A troubled conscience being one of them, followed by depression, regret, sorrow and guilt,

Answer 2

Think about what you are fighting about?
Is it petty BS? Head games? Try saying you are sorry when you are wrong, don't be afraid to admit it.
Or, is he going out of his way to pick fights with you? If so, don't take the bait, try and figure out what is causing this behavior. May be something very simple you both are building on in a negative way.
Just don't play games, be honest, keep your temper even etc.
If that doesn't work, kick his butt.

Answer 3

Stop and study on the things that you are fighting about. Is it really neccessary that you guys fight.Spend more time together talking, and set a side a night for a date, just the two of you. Love him as you want him to love you and I am sure that things will get alot better. Focus on resolving the problems instead of leaving one another.

Answer 4

don't worry too much, it is a big deal, but almost every couple goes through something like this, when I was younger my parents almost got a divorce, then my dad stomped down the stairs and said that they weren't. point is, you two need to sit down and work on whats bothering you most. I think my dad called my moms dad a few times to ask how to deal with my mom, look for support from family and friends, and take all advice and consider it. and when you two do talk don't start yelling, try and take it all and then put it strait.
best of luck to you both and I hope you can work through this!

Answer 5

Do what you can to see things from his point of view when you argue or when you think back on arguments. If you know you're wrong, no matter how hard it is, apologize and admit he's right. Just try to make things more peaceful between you both, go on dates...spend quality time together, romantically, as if you were still dating again. This should help ease the tension.

Answer 6

Most likely the best thing for you to do is seek professional counseling. Go alone if you have to and maybe he will go later.
If things aren't to bad tell him you'd like to stop having fights over almost nothing and want to talk about what is bothering you and find out what he thinks might work for him.

Answer 7

You have to decide what you want....You say in a way you want him gone...on the other side of the coin you say, in a way you want him to stay....You are the problem...YOu have to determine what you want...once you decide, then work on that goal.

If you want him to go, then you leave, on the flip side, if you want him to stay, then give him the best loving he ever had in his life!

Answer 8

Stop fighting. It isn't worth it. It doesn't matter who is right and who is wrong. It is not easy finding true love. So stop wasting precious time fighting with your husband. Love him, respect him and take care of him.

Answer 9

sorry no clue,

I have a wife I feel that way about, have for like 17 years

she was gone for like 6 months

Answer 10

fighting is natural but not if it gets out of hand and into abusse, just let him know that u 2 need to communicate with each other in different ways instead of fighting