I have a new friend who is the sister of my closest friend, who married recently. His sister and I can't stand the woman he married, and that's about all we have in common.
The sister calls me all the time to talk about the woman, to tell me baby stories, to shoot the breeze. I think she is a great girl, but I am definitely NOT a person who can be on the phone for two hours every night. Not only do I not have the time, I just don't talk on the phone that much.
So far, I've tried being slow to return calls and answer emails, but she's not picking up the hint.
How can I politely tell her that she needs to call me a little less without hurting her (or her brother's) feelings? Or can I? Barring that, how can I get off the phone with her so that I'm not stuck talking for two hours?
Thanks for whatever advice you can offer.
2006-12-14 12:34:30 · 10 answers · asked by Deryn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
"Mary, I only have two minutes. What's up?" And I mean 2 minutes later, interrupt her and say, "Sorry, I really have to go, take care, bye." and then hang up.
It won't be the first time someone has done that to her, trust me.
I've also hit a button on the phone so it beeps, and then say, "Sorry, I have another call coming in, it's important, have to go, bye!" and then hang up.
These people are like cockleburrs, they just hang on, and on, and on. You have to tear them off with force!
2006-12-14 12:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard trying not to be rude when all you want to do is get off the phone and even with hints she isn't getting it. Sometimes you just have to be honest with a person and tell them how you are feeling. You should let her know that you need to limit your time on the phone with her because you have other things to do. If she still doesn't get the hint just tell her that it bothers you to gossip about people and that you don't care to do it anymore. Some people don't get the picture after all that so you just have to be honest with them and ask her not to call so much other than that you would have to keep check on your ID box. God Bless
2006-12-14 12:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't pick up the phone. Maybe you can try letting a week go by, then e-mail her and let her know you are very busy and will try calling her later, then don't. I think that's nicer than telling her to call you less.
2006-12-14 12:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when she calls act like your busy or maybe tell your partner to call you so you have to go!! Just be upfront about it and tell her that you have things to do and your busy so you don't really have time to chat all the time! Maybe you could suggest that maybe you should slow it down a bit to only a few times every month!!
2006-12-14 12:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by pqr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she sounds like she does not have a life-time of her very own and in simple terms needs a chum, and is finding at you to be her pal. With what you stated approximately her, it sounds like she extremely does not have everyone to speak to or rant to. My wager may be she under no circumstances had a suitable pal. you have many innovations, yet for this reason, i might propose considered one of the two: you may forget approximately her thoroughly. end choosing up her calls, end talking to her and in actuality, act as though she under no circumstances existed. you will likely ruin her heart, yet do not difficulty, she'll be off your returned and you will bypass returned to doing what you decide on. yet do not call her returned in case you get lonely and start to omit her consistent telephone calls. OR Have dinner along with her one night, enable her get her frustrations out and clarify to her which you like having her as a chum and you completely are there for her while she desires somebody to speak to, yet you won't be able to be spending 24/7 on the telephone along with her. tell her you will constantly be there for her and you will seek advice from her daily. Then casually advance the calls. Say some thing alongside the strains of you're entering into difficulty at paintings because of the common calls. the final component you prefer to assert with regard to it extremely is in a friendship, there are 2 human beings. not one. She could appreciate you and comprehend to not call you extra suitable than two times an afternoon, and in spite of the reality that it extremely is stupid, you experience kinda weird and wonderful that she does not constantly enable you to rant to her or bypass on like she does to you. in actuality, you comprehend what i'm attempting to assert. it is your job to place it into words that isn't offend her. She sounds clingy for my section, and you're able to discover your very own thank you to get her somewhat much less linked to you. you comprehend her extra suitable than we do, hence some thing we advise would make her offended, dissatisfied or completely hate you continually.
2016-12-30 10:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in that same exact situation. All you have to do is say, you could say this," Man you could win a record for the longest talker! I could never talk as long as you do!" then she will say something like," Oh sorry i won't talk as much" then you will say, " It's not that i don't want to talk to you, it's just that i have a lot of things to do" GOOD LUCK IT WORKED FOR ME!
2006-12-14 12:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by can'ywait2getoutofhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely say that you are busy and sometimes call her so you can control the time you talk to her.
2006-12-14 12:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by DDT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she is calling a little too much and you would appreciate it if she'd stop. If she flips then she got issues.
2006-12-14 12:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by demon_chrno36 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hang up, or screen calls.
2006-12-14 12:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont answer sometimes...
2006-12-14 12:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by Ethernaut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋