How do you find the one?

Question

the one means the one person you will spend the rest of your life getting to know. Or maybe someone in your imagination, your dream, the one person who has the other side of your brain?

Answer 1

(Its assumed here you are a female seeking a male as I write, if I am wrong please forgive me)

This is an awesome question. One that involves diligent consideration. To begin answer, let me say this fact, to find the best or most desireable person in your life, I believe one should either be the very best person they can be also.

Meaning to find that right lifetime partner, you must first become that ideal partner. Everyone has things to work on personally. Love yourself first as you are? Of course, we are to love ourselves as we are as well as others accepting ourselvs, however, if we can improve our bodies, our minds in dealing with relationships, inquiring of ourselves as to why we need a mate, etc.

I here it being said over and over again by individuals that they are seeking a mate in order to become a complete person. Personally I disagree. It is best that a person enter a relationship as a complete person and find a complete person in mind, discipline, and principles.

1 + 1 = 2 Two "Whole" numbers adding to one another equates to something greater. Anything less brings less or puts the greater burden on the other in the relationship or could lead to a failed relationship due to the lack of strength within the relationship.

Where am I going? It is imperative that you rely not on another to bring you happiness and other securities in your life. Enter the relationship secure mentally and to your best physically with a bright exciting personality peaking the interest of others. In your case, peaking the interest of the ideal mate which brings me to another question.

What are the characteristics of your ideal mate? And are they realistic? Do you possess any of those characteristics you demand of your ideal mate? Consider these questions diligently and honestly. Again, we can always improve ourselves, and it is easier to find what we are looking if we already understand what we want ideally and most importantly, if we understand our own selves definitely.

Peaking the interest of your ideal mate requires you to understand the interest of that ideal mate type. What does he like do? How does he feel about relationships? Marriage? what principles does he possess? How does he go about solving problems? Is he a team player? How are his conflict resolution skills? What makes him angry? What makes him happy? How well does he communicate? Are there any individuals in that persons life that might have some influence over his decision making in the relationship? How open is his in relationships? what are his values in this life? Family? Past? Etc.

Its been said, one can judge the good qualities of a man based upon how he treats his mother. I disagree with this notion because the mate is not the mother and could not possibly have the same respect as the mother. In some cases, the man treats his mother honorably because he knows he'd better! (smile) Other cases, the man learned as being raised by his mother how to love and respect her because she demands it. Others, its just a natural thing.

Be that as it may, just because he treats his mother with respect does not mean he will do you the same. I know of countless scenarios where mental and or physical abused occurred in the relationship but the man would dare not mistreat his own mother. With that understood, that conclusion is not a reliable gauge of a mans character.

Every individual has unique qualities of course and there are no text books to define them all. But it is important to think things through carefully because once the romance of things becomes "Common Place", the rest of the issues that you once compensated or tolerated will arise with greater intensity causing the relationship to become unpleasant.

Romance is important, but understanding that he will not always smell sweet and does stink from time to time until refreshed. And the host of other dirty laundry issues that will soon become noticeable as the romance of things become common place. Yes, of course, it is important to keep the romance going within a relationship, but we must be realistic and be willing to work through the hardships or problems as they arise "together"

Become the ideal mate so that you attract or peak the interest of the one you desire. And when you communicate with your prospective mate, make every attempt to get inside of his head. Do you know what I mean? Learn how he ticks because if you dont, you will waste a lot of time learning the hard way about your prospect. You will never learn everything about a person, but if you understand what his principles and or morals that he operates from daily, it will make things easier down the road or isle of marriage.

Perhaps one could ask, "How can I peak the interest of the mate I desire?" And be genuine about those interest within. All the best!

Answer 2

People come into and out of our lives for a reason. That said, this is an age old question that has no specific answer. The best bet is to keep an open mind, and a positive attitude. In the world, positive attracts positive, and negative attracts negative (yes there are acceptions). Some things you just have to fight for, just make sure you know what you feel is worth fighting for.

Answer 3

Contact the leader scientific examiner of the county where your Mother died. You can appear up the quantity and phone and simply request a replica of her demise certificates. There will probably be a rate to you for that certificates. Perhaps $10 to $20. The certificates will point out purpose of demise. Be all set as what you may also be taught might be very unhappy. You father, as you point out have got to had been harm through her demise suggests that you just most probably can also be harm to be taught the purpose of her demise. I desire that you just be taught what you're in need of to understand and that you're going to no longer be harm an excessive amount of through the outcome.

Answer 4

Actually, I believe, the "one" will find you.

Just like they believe you will find them. There is no store called "the one" so live your life with the belief that "the one" is out there, and you never know, you might never meet him. But he is out there, looking, waiting for a chance to meet you. He might even marry the wrong one, you might also, but the real one for you is out there.

I believe that in the afterlife, since you are only a soul, that you instantly find the one and you then share your experiences on earth.

Finding "the one" is not the start, middle or the end of a journey, it is the journey itself.

I used to talk to the "one" before I met her. When I met my wife, I asked her to marry me on our first date, I told her I did that in case we did get married we would have a cool story to tell our kids. In reality, within a few hours I knew she was the one for me, and she admitted to me she felt the same way. We both have had alot of relationships and over the years I would have never believed I would meet her and so quickly know it. I've been burnt in the passed, and her also, but we knew. Within 1 month we eloped to vegas got married. We got married again 1 year later in a church ceremony and now have two wonderful kids. We are approaching 10 years :) When I met her, I had stopped looking for the one, and she found me when she also stopped looking.

Answer 5

First of all theres the old, "be yourself". Don't try to be someone else to impress a guy or else he'll love who you're pretending to be, not you. Second, I say just wait for it. Yea, keep your eye out, but don't make a fool of yourself just to get a man.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I already found mine...you have to pray to god and be patient. Listen to god as you meet knew people. If your conscience tells you he not right, then he probablt isn't. Let your faith in God take you on an amazing road.

Answer 7

insightful narration by Stanley... i agree that you are also "the one" for someone else out there, just be the best that you can be and take chances...

Answer 8

First you have to know what "the one" is to you.

Answer 9

some people dont find "the one" sometimes you have to make what you've got "the one"

Answer 10

Are you looking for your soul mate somewhere, look close to home .........the One .