My fiance and were supposed to get married last sunday...the day of the wedding he does not show up, never heard from him again. (and yes he is alive) why did this happen to me? why would allow all the preparation and money be spent if he felt that way
2006-12-14 12:19:08 · 20 answers · asked by Queen459789 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
all i do is cry....i want to die.
2006-12-14 12:21:43 · update #1
Maybe (hopefully) he was only afraid and got cold feet..
2006-12-14 12:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by Ethernaut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did not have the courage to go through with it. Is he afraid of the commitment?
Could an old flame from his past have shown up and caused him to change his mind?
Did he feel trapped into marrying you?
The reason he didn't show could be different than the ones I mentioned, but the results are all the same. He should have been strong enough to face you and explain how he felt instead of wasting the time and money of everyone involved. He owed it to you to speak to you in person and not leave you there looking like a fool.
2006-12-14 20:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look at it this way, God believes that this man, the one who left you on the altar, is meant for you. And HE has a better man who is really born for you. this may sound mushy but true. if i was on your place, i would feel exactly the same thing. feel depressed, betrayed, ugly, unworthy, angry etc, etc. but at the same time, look at it in a different light, if you ended up marrying a lying, coward and no-balls of man that he is, won't it all just end up in your marriage failing and you being miserable as well? don't cry over cookie crumbles honey. you are one strong, beautiful and special woman. any man would be lucky to have you, so hold your head up high and start looking for things that make you feel good about yourself and find happiness again, with or without a man. show your stupid ex-fiance that it is HIS loss and never yours and show him you are better than that and He does not deserve you after all. Godbless dear and I wish you the best!
2006-12-14 20:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by Acidburn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a coward and I could also come up with a whole lot more! You are lucky to have found this out now. I would sue his you know what for the cost of the wedding. I'm serious. As far as your broken heart it will just take some time. I hope that he feels like crap. Bless your heart..as the old saying goes...time heals all wounds.
2006-12-14 22:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by Debcee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can really tell you why he did this except him. Find your runaway groom and confront him. Call him and tell him he owes you that much. He's caused you embarassment and both your families. There must be a way to contact him. Find out the truth. It probably won't be good but you're gonna need it for closure. I'm very sorry. Some men just rather run than face the truth and have to endure a little confrontation. It's sad and he owes you an explanation.
2006-12-14 20:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by copper_eos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a coward, waited till everything was all set and bailed out on you. he decided he did not want to marry you, but did it in the most unkind selfish way, without even an explanation to u. how hurt and humiliated u must have been. he should have told u sooner, some people would rather just walk out on someone without having to explain, perhaps he is embarased, but he knew and was not concerned with your hurt. move on , be glad u didn't marry him, be glad u didn't have alot more invested than that. a litttle hurt now, alot of hurt if you had married him. sometimes there is never any closure to something, but don't let it get u down, don't let what he did be how u define and see yourself, just cause one man didn't want u, doesn't mean it can't still work out with someone else. he simply was not the person u thought he was, we see what we want to see, and dismiss the rest.
2006-12-14 20:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen this happened to a friend of mine . You need to forget about him cause he is a woos. He was not man enough to tell you instead of just leaving you there ,that was wrong and he will get his. so you be strong and get over it and move on and in time you will find a nice decent man who truly deserves you and by the way you can sue him for part of the cost of the wedding . Just thought I would let you know . good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-12-14 21:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he probably realized that you are too good for him. But, he could have been a real man and told you how he felt before the wedding or before the planning of the wedding started. I hope that you'll be able to move on and find someone who really cares about you. Don't give up!
2006-12-14 20:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am very sorry, us women dream with our wedding day. and its really ****** up that a guy did u like dat.
i know how you must feel, im engaged myself and i know how you felt towards your wedding (excited and happy) so it really puts you down being left like that.
all i can tell you is that it will take time, but you should keep your daily life, go out and meet new ppl, distract from this bad experience. he wasnt worth your love.
if you think talking about it will make you feel better, feel free to send me a message. just remember if he left you like that it was because he was insecure and thought he didnt deserve such a wonderful women like you.
2006-12-14 20:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happen to my aunt...but she brave the wedding dinner bravely..she never cry a tear.
(She got a son with him though)
And teach that sucker well after the wedding!!!
Bravo Aunt, squeeze that @@shole every penny she can get for child support..
2006-12-14 20:36:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you force him into it with an ultimatum or something? Guys don't respond well to that sort of thing, and may not say or do anything about it until the last minute. If not then maybe he isn't the guy for you. Or he's not ready to commit yet.
2006-12-14 20:28:01 · answer #11 · answered by Matt T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋