I have 2 friends that argue all of the time, but they are both my friends. they want me to dump the other and be their friend? What should i do or say??????!
2006-12-14 12:18:42 · 11 answers · asked by breonbebeh13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell them to give you some respect and consideration by not putting you in the middle of a very uncomfortable situation. that's very immature and selfish of both of them! if they don't like each other, they don't have to be around each other. the bottom line is, you like them both, and they both like you, but they both dislike one another. spend time with both of them separately. and tell them both that you refuse to gossip or talk about one to the other, and not to even try going there.
they can both decide what happens by their actions, they will either respect you and do what you ask of them, or they will keep on until they both ruin their friendships with you. it's their choice.
Good Luck With Everything
2006-12-14 12:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be friends with both of them you're going to have to do it sperately. Meaning go to the movies with friend A. on Tuesday and then go shopping with friend B. on Thursday. Explain to both of them that they are both you're friends and you're not going to drop one for the other because that's not fair to anyone. Explain that you understand their feelings and that you'll try not to bring them up when you're around the other. I had two friends that didn't like each other. I simply hung out with them at different times and didn't mention either of them to each other. Worked like a charm and I had the best of both worlds.
2006-12-14 20:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by copper_eos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be both of their friends. If one of them will refuse to be YOUR friend because you're friends with someone else, then they have personal problems. They should be able to understand if they're real friends.
I myself remain indifferent to everyone -- I don't care if my friends hate each other, because I do not feel obligated to dump another friend to make them happy. They know being with all of my friends makes me happy and they, as my friends, respect that and don't try to nag me into dropping my other friendships.
Good luck.
2006-12-14 20:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by Tawny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that situation once before. Just hang out with them at different times. And tell them that you want to be both of their friends and that you can't choose between them. Hopefully they'll understand.
2006-12-14 20:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both that you won't dump the other, and make time for both of them separately.
2006-12-14 20:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok i have the same problem all you have to do is say im not hanging out with more than the other so you mind as well forget about that if yall cant be friends thats fine but im both of your friends and if you dont like it to bad or you can be mean and sayim not hanging out with eitheer one of u untill yall can understand my situation and think of a sulution or just be meaner (trust me its fun) you can say im not hanging out with either one of you untill you r friends
let me give u advice they ewill either be friends or agree to let yopu be frinds with both
2006-12-14 20:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you have to choose one or the other for their disagreements? It's not your fault they don't like each other, and it's not fair to you that you're being put in the middle. And that's all you have to say to them. Tell them that you're not choosing, it's not right or fair to you, and you don't think you should have to choose because you like them both. You're not going to hate one or the other because one says so.
2006-12-14 20:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you cant be friends with them together.... all you can do is do activities seperately..If they argue when your together you look bad along with them...You should let them know there are qualities you like in each but when your together things dont work so you would like to do activities seperate.....
2006-12-14 20:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by zizi4me22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to get over the fact that you're friends with both of them. and just cause they dont like eachother doesnt mean that it has to come down to you pickin one over the other. if they makin you pick then cut both of them out.
or tell them to scratch they butts and get glad cause you ain't changin your mind.
2006-12-14 20:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by smthomas306 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
had a problem like that but i was friends with both...never listen to neither of them... i changed the subject really fast if they talked about it....
2006-12-14 20:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by kiss85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋