Should just get up and go with out telling him or should I talk to him about me leaving? See if I talk to him hes not gonna let me go. But I dont wanna be here anymore.I just want to be happy.But i know that my happiness will cause alot of people pain and anger,including him.I already left once and it was so hard on him,and thats why I wanna let him now.But how do you tell some one hey im leaving?And if i dont tell him hes gonna be so worried.What should i do?
2006-12-14 12:16:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You make all the arrangements in advance. Have everything ready for you to walk out the door.
Then you have a few quiet moments with him and explain what is going on and why you are leaving. He will want to beg you to stay, and may even threaten things to get you to stay.
When you are done explaining what you need to say, just get up and walk out. Do not look back. Do not accept phone calls from him for at least a week. Tell him you do not want to talk to him or see him for a week. Do not let others influence you. You are the one who has to live your life-not them.
2006-12-14 12:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is very dependent upon you and now that you need to break away he isn't willing to let you go. 1st of all you have to make yourself #1 in your life unless you have children then they come 1st but otherwise you are the most important person here on earth that need to be happy not this guy or other people. I can tell that this is hurting you greatly and that you are a very sincere person for if you were not then you would just leave and not look back which you probably shouldn't have returned to begin with if this guy is stuck on you like this. It will be hard but just like you said it. Let him know that you are unhappy and that you need your space to find that happiness. If he doesn't understand then thats not your fault because you told him whereas you could have just left. Don't ever stay where you are not happy. Its not healthy for you or the person you are with. And it doesn't matter what other people think. They are not you and they are not going through what you are having to deal with. God bless you
2006-12-14 12:35:50 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell him your leaving cuz like you said he will be worried if he just comes home one day and your gone. I total understand what your going through at this time. I just had to make the same decision myself. To stay and be so unhappy are to leave and hurt his feelings. So in the end I wont to be happy w/ myself, w/ my surroundings and so forth. So I left. And yes it did and will cause him pain. But in the end if this is what you truly wont things will work out in the best for you. I know you seem so lost as what should you do and how you should go about it. But you very well should tell him your leaving. R if your worried that once you tell him he's gonna pull the guilt trip act to make you stay. Pack up when he's gone and leave him a letter where you know he will find it. So he'll know not to worry about you. That you left on ur own. Because you wonted to. Good luck to you and God Bless.
2006-12-14 12:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one you don't say why you left him teh first time, or why you want to leave him now. But if you must do it for your happiness and your well being. BEcause if your not happy there you will soon get depressed about it and get more and more depressed as time goes by. Well if it hurts someone or makes them mad who cares, they don't have to put up with him. SO think hard and if you decide to leave just leave. Because he will moan and groan like a little kid that why your leaving him and that you don't love him or other stuff and then he might just start blaming you for everything that is happening. SO if you want to get it off your chest IM me or e-mail me and we can continue with this, if not good luck.
2006-12-14 12:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you already know how he's gonna react then you need to sit down and carefully plan on how you are gonna do it...........if you've left once and really didn't want to be with this guy why did you go back.....If you are so concerned about his feelings than you need to be considerate of his feelings and if you keep leaving and go right back than there's gonna be a time when you want to be there and he's not gonna let you come back you need to think long and hard about playing with someones emotions
2006-12-14 12:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u left him once think about the reason y u went back to him and if it doesnt make u happy being with him then u should most definetly leave but so he doesnt worrie u should leave a email or something telling him that its over and that ur not happy with him anymore
2006-12-14 12:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
need more info on the cirmcumstances, but if you've decided to leave, and the only reason you don't is because he's sad, well then, that's not exactly the best reason in the book to stay. If there are kids involved, then that makes it more complicated, and not such an easy answer.
2006-12-14 12:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you tried to go to counseling together ?
If you have not tried that yet then please do try it, if you tried it & there is NO way the relationship will change then leave him a note when he's gone, tell him how you feel & why you left. Stay strong & God Bless
2006-12-14 12:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....let's see ....if you tell him...he won't let you go....but you want to go.....then stop with all the drama...think about your happiness and your future...sounds like you have thought about everyone elses enough...make your plan, pack your bags, and go....don't worry about the rest of the stuff, it will sort itself out....good luck
2006-12-14 12:23:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about you and your well being Don't tell him it will just make it worse.
2006-12-14 12:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by kd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋