Or better yet, how do you deal with people who are ******* and make fun of you and treat you like sh!t?
2006-12-14 11:59:00 · 14 answers · asked by Greg S 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I usually distance myself from them, I'm no masochist!
2006-12-14 12:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by lonesome me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, examine where your self-esteem comes from. Just once, make a list of all the things that you like about you and what you think others like about you.
If anyone criticizes you once, they might just be having a bad day. Let it go, you do not need any validation from them. If in doubt, check the list that you made. It might even help to ask them why they are that way.
On the other hand, for people who consistently criticize you, your best response should be "I feel sorry for you" NOTHING ELSE. Do not add anything else, let them wonder why you feel sorry for them. No need to be confrontational, just saying that you feel sorry for them will directly make them question their own "mental list" that they use to validate their behavior. Basically, you will be performing "operand conditioning" on their behavior.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-14 12:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by Manish Dharwadker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a pretty universal question. Regarding people who treat you badly, I would suggest finding ways to avoid them and try not to take what they say personally. People who are rude are not worth letting into our lives. As for negative criticism, this is a trickier one. For me, I think this takes some mulling over to decide how much of the information given was really about about me, and how much was really about the person delivering it. Once I have a better handle on this, I try to take away the information that is relevant, and try not to be too hard on myself. Nobody is perfect, including the person giving you feedback.
2006-12-14 12:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by lil 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what works best for you. If you can be fast witted come back with something to get to them. If you can fight then tell them to put there money where their mouth is. All in all just realize that for some reason they are insecure and taunt you to make themselves feel bigger. People like that are fun to get back at. They act macho but are really weak minded. Good luck.
2006-12-14 12:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by Bruce W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you ever heard of, kill them with kindness.. Its ironic but it works...It confuses them, they will wonder why would you be so nice and they are treating you so bad..They will stop because they will think something is wrong with you and all the time it is them who is crazy. ..Ignore it, remember who you are, because words never killed anyone. You said a mouthful when you said they are A******, they are now and will always be this way, so don't feed into it, just pity them, feel sorry for them, and be very glad it is not you who acts like that.
2006-12-14 12:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by wndybcktt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are just looking for a negative response from you, that will only give them what they want. If you just ignore them, they won't know what to do! Trust me, I've done it before, and once they see that you won't play along with their little game, and they're not bothering you (the key is just don't let it get to you, don't let it bother you) they will probably move on to someone else or just stop.
If they think they're being funny just give them a look not like you're ignoring them (that will make them think they've bothered you enough that you won't respond) just kind of shake your head and give a look like "what? you think that's funny? I feel sorry for you ... that's kind of sad," but not in a sarcastic way, look like you really are sorry for them!
2006-12-14 12:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by T'Vral 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
many situations while you're attempting to get out of your concern there'll come judgements factors and that voice would be screaming on your head in spite of if the antagonist isn't bodily there on the time. you would be able to desire to close your psychological ears and have self belief which you will make good judgements for your self. remember which you're clever adequate to look after your self and have the main suitable to do it. Please evaluate that having somebody pounding (figuratively a minimum of) on you isn't right for you mentally or bodily. See in case you will locate a thank you to get alleviation while you artwork on shifting out.
2016-10-14 23:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a swift uppercut to the jaw.
In seriousness, it depends, if they're being relentless, I'll threaten, if they start hitting, I hit back, but if it's light, I'll zing them back every chance i get, or public humiliation and then explain to them why I did it. Then of course watch out for the incoming revenge.
2006-12-14 12:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cory W 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Thank them... Negative criticism is a double negative, if it's criticism it's never positive... so you thank them....
2006-12-14 15:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have really learned how to define myself over the years. I know who I am and I know who I'm not. If someone were to say something to me intentionally to hurt me, I would know it's not me.
2006-12-14 13:02:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I normally ignore that kind of people, and I don't put them in the list of my friends and you should too.
2006-12-14 12:05:46 · answer #11 · answered by linda c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋