Question Details: He is a student and provider. i am a wife and self employed. i am very appreciative of all the great he does for our welfare but he doesn't treat me like the queen i have been to him. i feel alone in this relationship really badly. it's like being isolated and ignored on purpose when theres life; people there to see you that choose not. he's my husband and i am hurting. we can't even have a desent conversation, and he'd rather golf than to admit he is selfish with the time he can make for me. what are your out take on this matter and who has been through this. will leaving make him see how good i am for him and to him? i have been his proverb 31 women!!!
2006-12-14 11:57:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
listen: you dont deserve that and he doesnt deserve you while you could be having the time of your life with someone that actually cares enough for you to spend time with you youre stuck with him- someone who absolutely shows no feelings at all for you and if you dont talk to him the relationship will get even worse you have to talk to him ask him why he never wants to spend time with you tell him that school and work are something that you have to work around too but you still have time to do other things and so should he set aside a day just to spend together maybe even make vacation plans to get away from everything although id probably choose just spending a day with each other and catching up continue this and maybe the relationship will get better if it doesnt hes not worth your time and i hate to say this because youre married but leaving him will be the result of his poor behavior
2006-12-14 12:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a queen, but I am sure that you a re a nice person. He probably needs time alone to work out stress, meditate, etc. so that when you two are together, he doesn't snap at you or lose his temper.
Speaking as someone who worked full time while attending college, I can say, you should not worry about how much attention he is paying to you, so long as the attention you get is somewhat positive.
If I had been in a relationship at the time when I was in college, and the woman was on me about not spending enough time with her, either the relationship would have ended, or I would have had to drop college.
Be well.
2006-12-14 12:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him and let him know how you feel. Men are very selfish sometimes and hopefully he'll realize that you need some attention and time from him. I know it's sad that you have to ask, but then, if he doesn't listen to you and you get fed up and leave at least you'll know you told him how you felt. You can't demand, that much I know, but try talking to him calmly and seriously. Oh yeah, make sure you do let him go to play golf once in a while. Men need to have some time to themselves.
2006-12-14 12:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, providing is one thing and emotional well being is another........... talk to your husband. Tell him you need more attention!!!
Secondly, find something to do while he is at work and school. Get a hobby!!(scrapbooking, gym, swimming or volunteering)
Getting a hobby would help you cope with the time issues.
Do not leave your husband teach him how to love you! You have a good man; he is going to school and work. TEACH HIM!!!!
Show him how you want to be loved and touched.
You are a proverbs 31 woman WORK IT!
SUPPORT YOUR HUSBAND 100%!
PRAY AND GOD WILL HELP YOU REACH OUT TO HIM!!!!
DO NOT LOSE HOPE, FOCUS OR FAITH!!!!!
HOLD ON IT WILL GET BETTER! I AM A LIVING WITNESS
2006-12-14 12:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you asked him if you can caddy for him? Have you made and effort to be involved in his pasttime and show interest on what he likes? If he sees that you show interest in what he likes then maybe he will try and make and effort and do stuff you like.
You will not be able to trry and dictate what to do on his spare time as this will either anger him or drive him further away from you. So try the "Can I go be with you at the range and watch you , have a few drinks, then who knows...
2006-12-14 12:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by Cyrinos 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that sucks gurl. If you feel like you aren't being treated right, then you are most likey right. Sit him down and tell him how you feel. Tell him everything and be compeltly honest. Maybe that might make him snap outt it and try a little harder. Also tell the dude what you want from him and the relationship. He he can't deal or at least try to make you happy, maybe you should just leave and see what he does. Its not worth being unhappy. Good luck!!!
2006-12-14 12:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mz.H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's not always him being selfish.
he needs time for himself, everyone does. not everyone has the same expectations of their significant other. He can have other interests in his life than just you. If he's spending all of his time going to school and work to provide, cut him some slack and let him have some time to himself to enjoy life. It can be with you, but it doesn't always have to be.
2006-12-14 12:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by Sgt. Pepper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could have written this!
My husband's philosophy in life is "To thine own self be true."
Well, I've adopted that philosophy as well!
Our divorce becomes final the end of January! WOOT WOOT
2006-12-14 12:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow
i wouldnt even talk to him
that would piss me off
i would leave
2006-12-14 12:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Counseling is a start.
2006-12-14 12:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋