i`m sick of letting people step all over me!?

Question

i`m through with it!
i`m wayy too nice & let people ALWAYS have it there way.
i`m always trying to make them happy
that i`m not thinking about myself.

would God be proud of me?
i mean, i know he wants me to be nice & caring
but what about my happiness?

=(

& how can i stick up for myself more?
girls tend to point & talk trash about me RIGHT INFRONT OF ME!

and they have tonss of friends, BIG friends.
i have no oneee.` =/

please, no stupid answers.
i`m serious.
i`m so sad & i can`t have the courage to speak up...

geee`ss

Answer 1

To stand up for yourself say what your feel if it irritates you that much. Dont say it in an upsetting manner.... that gives the other person power.Everyone has flaws point out their not flawless .... that will put them in their place some people actually walk around thinking their God but theres only one..... As far as friends you will get them friends are not easy ,trust in God and you will \meet some true ones. God will reward you for not being selfish its easy to be nice than nasty.....God Bless you and pray be specific in your prayers and always read your word you will find out Jesus went throught the same thing and he made it

Answer 2

Why are you trying to make people happy? Is it because you are overflowing with happiness and just can't seem to use it all up, so you're forced to give it away like cheap plastic refrigerator magnets with your company logo on them? Are you nice out of strength or out of weakness? letting people have their way isn't necessarily "being nice". You can't let people always have their way and still be respected. Think about it, if you were a girl, would you harbor any attraction for wussy guys who can't say no to anyone? Who place so little value on themselves? Do you think those girls got those friends by being nice? The nicer you are to someone, the less they respect you, especially if they have no respect for themselves. On the other hand, the meaner you are to people, generally, the more they respect you. Respect and fear are not synonymous, their paths simply intersect for a little bit. So... applying that antilogic, if you get mad when they tease you, they will loose respect for you. If you smile, then throw back a little comment like "Ya... well I heard you really like it when guys sh1t in your mouth, what kind of freak are you?" they will respect you... they have to. If, in the event that you are going to get your a55 kicked by a couple of guys or whatever, start talking A LOT of sh1t! Whatever you do, don't run away, that'll only make you weaker. You have to earn respect big man, it ain't free. Get yourself some friends, even if they're losers... you need friends. Fight back, realize that those people aren't any better than you, and relax, they can smell fear.

Answer 3

K to start with girl dont be sad about that that should make u even stronger dont let other ppl bring u down and about the nice part u should only be nice to ppl that are nice to u ther's no reason for u to be getting step on speacially if ur really nice so yeah dont listen to other ppl be urself and u will find true friends and dont be to nice either do something that would make u happy u should think of urself and not the other ppl u shouldnt really even care about the other ppl

Answer 4

Awh, I'll be your online friend. :]]]
Eh, you can't always please everyone.
After all... you're here for you and no one else. You shouldn't have to impress them, or go out of your way to make them happy. Do what makes you happy. Screw their happiness. It's their job to make things better for theirself. You concentrate on yourself, and no one else. You don't need BIG friends, you need friends you can trust with anything. You know, friends that will never turn their back on you. And sticking up for yourself? You have to find it in you. Some kind of inner anger. These people are walking all over you, and taking advantage of your kindness. You can't just sit there and allow it. Put your damn foot down. Be mean! GRR! ahhaha You're too passive, it's time to find some assertiveness. God, will be proud of you once you're finally happy with yourself. And when you're in less doubt about everything. When you have a smile on your face every day, and you're not questioning so many things. That's God reigning down on you. So smile, and time to show everyone else that you don't care about anything they say. You're doing what's right for you! :]

Answer 5

1. Stop being so naive. Develop your sense of humour (read the book "Comedy writing secrets").
2. One of the things you'll learn sooner or later and will have to use: You don't have to be friends with everybody. But those who you choose to be friends with, you must choose carefully.
3. This is not a fair world. Which is good, otherwise no matter how hard everybody would work, everybody would get the same results, and people would become lazy. So you can take advantage of this unfairness. No, it doesn't mean use other people but this gives you a chance to rise above them if you work hard enough.

Answer 6

Really It is Not God's way to not be nice but it is also not God's wish for humans to be treated like doormats. stick up for your self. God won't be angry he will be proud of you. You can't let anyone talk trash about no matter what! Just Stick up for your self. Start Making New Friends talk to people and when you least expect it people will stop talking trash about you and thinking you are great.

Answer 7

Sticking up for yourself is an attempt to prove something to someone. You should have nothing to prove to anyone. And as far as making other people happy, you have to remember that you need to be happy too. Its ok to say no sometimes. Saying no can even help that person more than if you helped them. Don't worry if they get upset that you didn't do what they asked. They should be doing things themselves. And try telling them that you're unhappy. Maybe it'll change things.

Answer 8

It's never good to start a fight, but you should stick u pfor yourself at least. Ask them what there problem is with you or if you did something to make them upset, and after they say no just kill them with kindness, be so sugary sweet to them they will have nothing to say. Even if it is something as simple as you like there shirt or jewelry or something add a big smile to it and you got it. If they don't get to you they will lose interest.

Answer 9

it's good that you want to be a nice person, but there is a time when you realize you need to put your foot down. find some confidence and let people know exactly how they make you feel and you are annoyed by it. sometimes you have to think of yourself because others will not and they'll take advantage of you.

Answer 10

I know your trying to be in God's good eyes but he is our parents and will love us no matter what.. he knows what you are doing.. I'm sure he doesn't want you to be stepped on for being so nice..
you have to take a stand.. still be you but when you know it's right tell'em like it is dont let them do that too you honey you deserve much better