He is a student and provider. i am a wife and self employed. i am very appreciative of all the great he does for our welfare but he doesn't treat me like the queen i have been to him. i feel alone in this relationship really badly. it's like being isolated and ignored on purpose when theres life; people there to see you that choose not. he's my husband and i am hurting. we can't even have a desent conversation, and he'd rather golf than to admit he is selfish with the time he can make for me. what are your out take on this matter and who has been through this. will leaving make him see how good i am for him and to him? i have been his proverb 31 women!!!
2006-12-14 11:56:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From a male perspective, I think he's just allocating his time in the fashion he thinks is necessary to get through his studies. Once school is behind him, he can devote more time to you & the relationship. But in order to get there, he might have to sacrifice right now.
All of that said, it shouldn't be ZERO time... There has to be some time set aside for your wife!!
I agree with Yvonne- get involved with some activities of your own. Whether its community college classes or sculpting, writing or rock climbing, once you start having your own fun he just might start feeling what it's like :)
2006-12-14 12:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by C-Man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely a sign of trouble brewing. Find out if he's seeing someone else instead of golfing. Have a one-on-one talk with you and advise him that you're concern the relationship may be hitting the rocks. Hear him and be patient. He may be troubled or perhaps since you're self-exployed you may be better off financially then him thus the insecurity him him. Go, have a good chat!
2006-12-14 12:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you at the instant are not a queen, yet i'm specific which you a re a spectacular guy or woman. He in all probability desires time on my own to artwork out stress, meditate, etc. so as that as quickly as you 2 are jointly, he would not snap at you or lose his temper. talking as somebody who labored finished time whilst attending college, i will say, you need to no longer hardship approximately how lots interest he's paying to you, see you later by using fact the attention you get is particularly beneficial. If I were in a dating on the time whilst i became in college, and the lady became on me approximately no longer spending adequate time along with her, the two the dating could have ended, or i could have had to drop college. Be nicely.
2016-10-14 23:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel unhappy being together with him, I think leaving him is the best choice. But if can, maybe both of you go for counselling, as its could help. Maybe you could try to find some time to spend with your own group of friends, rather than expecting him to spend time with you. When you love him more than he love you, you are the person who suffer most. I hope you learn to spends next to 0 time w/him....., then let go of him when the time you realize you are happier without him.......
2006-12-14 12:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a pet to keep you company. They are better than the husband in the matter of giving company LOL . Just get a very very small puppy, so that you know it is absolutely helpless and needs you.
2006-12-14 12:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by SP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you refer to yourself as the "queen?"
maybe he needs a wife and not a queen.
but, maybe you are right and he is being a jerk. if you are wanting to go out and do something, go out and do it. he is not your ticket to a social life. I'm sure you could have one on your own. maybe if he sees you are getting on well alone instead of pestering him all the time to entertain you he may come around!
2006-12-14 12:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he gave the same time to his studies he would flunk,,,I had this in my marriage and it is setting up a pattern,,,,We teach people how to treat us,,,,So read that statement again,,,,then have a plan of action....
2006-12-14 12:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he is home maybe you can rent a porn and watch it it does kind of put a spice back in your life and it creates great sex
2006-12-14 12:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Passion S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to get alife for yourself.Time to do every thing for just you if that means changing jobs then do that to.do what you feel you should do to feel good.Time to get a life for you girl.Good luck it always work.
2006-12-14 12:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by bonnie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk and listen to him and with him.
2006-12-14 12:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by SAHM/Part Time Tutor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋