i have a boyfriend for 2 months. and me and his older brother lets say his name is "C" dated before for a week. and all C does is tell me how he is in love with me, im beautiful, im all the thinks about, and to dump hiz brother and go with him. and he calls me ALL the time, leaves me like 4 voicemails a day and love notes in my locker. i tell him that im with his brother and he still doesent care. he is so smothering. so i have been ignoring him but he continues to call HELP?!
2006-12-14 11:53:26 · 13 answers · asked by LiveItUp09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's not as into you as he is interested in sticking it to his brother. If he were really that in to you, he wouldn't have let you go after only 1 week. He would have confessed his feelings to you before you started dating his brother. I think you should save his messages and let your boyfriend listen to them, do it with both of them there (put your phone on speakerphone if your phone allows that). That would send him the message loud and clear that he lost his chance on what could have been the best thing that ever happened to him. Go Girl!
2006-12-14 12:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly you have a stalker. Sometimes guys just don't get it when we say go away. You're going to have to get firm and possibly mean. Tell him you are very sorry but you don't like him, you're not dumping your boyfriend for him, and there is no way it's ever going to happen between the two of you. Tell him the phonecalls and the notes need to stop or things are going to get really ugly. Then if he continues to call and leave notes get someone older or someone with more influence over this guys involved. You might even tell your boyfriend what is going on and that it's starting to creep you out.
I had a similar experience with someone in college. I broke it off with him and he continued trying to contact me even a year later after I had blatantly told him to leave me alone and to stop contacting me. I finally had to threaten to contact his family and the police. It's unfortunate but some guys just can't seem to grasp what the words "NO" and "STOP" mean.
2006-12-14 12:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by copper_eos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he calls you, simply answer the phone, and tell him that you're not interested in him that way. And needs to find a girlfriend that actually likes him. Because you're happy with his brother and have no intentions of breaking up with him, over "C". So, he needs to move on and stop calling you. It's just annoying and pretty damn obsessive. You can't always be nice to him, you have to defend yourself some time. Otherwise he's going to keep doing it, thinking you're just playing hard to get.
2006-12-14 11:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not date a guy after you have dated his brother or even friend. It causes too many problems like this one. Tell your boyfriend whats going on or just walk away from both.
2006-12-14 11:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by rc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling your boyfriend about it. And tell "C" that u dnt want him anymore ( or do u?) Anyways tell him to let go of the past and to let his brother be happy. And also try ignoring him and deleting all his messages. If you read them maybe its because u might still have feelings for him anyways just go w/ your gut and GOOOOOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-12-14 12:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by @ndyy<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your boyfriend. Save the texts and voicemails. In case he tries to deny it. He probably doesn't like seeing you and his brother happy together.
2006-12-14 11:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you probably did the main suitable ingredient, you enable him understand that if he acted agressive you have been gonna do the comparable. i'm 19 and that i've got a youthful brother who sounds precisely like yours. besides the very incontrovertible fact that he's two years youthful than me, he towers over me (im in simple terms 5`5 and he's over 6ft) and he's slender yet muscular. he's barely ever spectacular to me whilst he needs something, something of the time he's aggresive and impolite. my kinfolk take no observe by using fact... nicely actualy i dont understand why they forget approximately it. i attempt to be spectacular to him whilst he's around yet he in simple terms doesnt care.
2016-10-14 23:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have not went out with two brothers, break up with the one brother, and just be friends with both, ending the relationship would help everyone. take care of yourself and learn your lesson. Do not date siblings. God Bless!!!
2006-12-14 12:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by old 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to ask out someone you know who is single. Say they would make a perfect match. Choose someone slightly below his standards so he thinks you rate him a little less than he rates himself. No guy wants a chick who doesn't pump up his ego.
2006-12-14 12:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by jnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.
i've been in your situation before. for real, execpt with two twin brothers. it's a hard situation. what you need to do, is just tell him "i can't talk to you if your going to make me feel uncomfortable." and ignore him. or maybe, you can hook him up with your best friend.
it worked for me, for like 2 weeks.
also, if you don't do something about it, you may lose both of them.
2006-12-14 11:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by poprocksncoke030 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋