Don't mind the avatar, this is my wife's account. We have been married four years. We have had okay sex in that time, but not often/good enough for her. I take viagra and have been to counselling but I just feel she could make more of an effort to stimulate me. I asked her if she had just fallen out of love with me but she don't know...I love but don't know what else to do. If she don't fancy me no more, well maybe this is why she ain't interested. I admit I am probably not the best in bed, and understand she has needs, but when it works well, it really does work well. I think she is already thinking of leaving me, because she said she thought about either accepting the situation as it is or kill herself. I dont wanna be the guy who makes her feel like this, but what can I do? Anything?
2006-12-14 11:51:30 · 7 answers · asked by Jodie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife says she is not really prepared to do anything..so I am not sure how things are gonna go. I am not impotent all the time...and I think if she tried to turn me on it would work. She just feels she has a psychological block now. She thinks I should have more of an 'urge' but that only happens when you are turned on. I wish I knew what else we could try.
2006-12-16 11:08:09 · update #1
She has today said she don't know if she loves me anymore, and if I want her respect, I have to earn it. I don't know how things have come to this. I suggested we seperate, and she said okay, how do you want to do it? She feels she should'nt be the one to go, that I should go instead. What a mess.
2006-12-17 02:48:32 · update #2
Perhaps couples therapy would help you both to get to the root of all of the problems you are both having. It might be that your impotence makes her feel unattractive to you?
Communication is the best solution to all problems
2006-12-17 23:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by lucyt20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some great book in the Psychology section of Barnes and Noble. These will help the both of you. Playboy also has some great technique videos you might want to check out.
Best of luck
2006-12-16 00:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive in destiny but I still think you have to fight to save your marriage. Especially if you have children.
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2014-09-28 04:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your missus is not interested tell her wot's on your mind the door swings both ways. If you can't get wot you need at home go find fun with a bit of strange then go home to the old hag!!!!
2006-12-17 09:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by karen. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your so called wife thinks of killling heself then let her get on with it ... you or anyone else don`t deserve to be treated like she is treating you.
I would leave her find another life.
2006-12-16 15:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This answer is the first you are receiving 16 hours after you posted the question. What do you conclude from this?
2006-12-15 12:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you looking to strangers for such important advice
2006-12-18 11:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by dtxox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋