I am ok with myself. And I know that what others have to say about me shouldn't matter. I also have a lot of answers for why they hate me. But, I still don't get why they hate me, and why it hurts.
2006-12-14 11:28:23 · 23 answers · asked by §~You can't judge me!~§ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
They arent as brave as you are of being different. The have no reason to hate you if they dont know you. People would hate you even if you werent gay....Don't stress on it. Hate will always be here. We are forced to live with it....
2006-12-14 11:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's hate, I think it's lack of understanding for the most part and a desire to separate themseves from something that offends their sensibilities.
I was born in an extremely anti-gay community there wasn't even a proper word for it until a few years ago because it was so rare. I spoke to a relative about it and what he had to say is that it is unnatural. That seemed to be enough for him to dislike it, and whereas I hold that view too: homosexual orientation and anal sex is not where evolution bred us to go. So literally, you can't argue that it is un natural but to me it is a fallacious argument because you cannot on that premise, say that therefore I hate such people, it just doesn't follow.
i'm sure that there are many other unnatural things that we don't attack in the same way (I can't think of any right now)... It should hurt though, because you're probably just as sociable as the next guy, and you don't want to be offensive to anyone else.
It's sad is all, but i wouldn't worry about it, things like xenophobia and homophobia are on their way out, I think it's inevitable that people will arrive at a point where they can disagree as much as they like but not impinge unreasonable on other people's good feeling.
2006-12-14 20:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Can I Be Your Pet? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww. Doris isn't nice. That's actually pretty rude of you to say.
As for being gay and being made fun of, I think people as a species has a need to be better or on top. By pin pointing gays, blacks, arabs, or any other minority, those people who make fun of them are showing their cowardly ways; by making themselves feel better at the cost of putting other people down.
It's easier said than done to not listen to peoples opinions of you, but look deep within you and know that you were put on earth for a reason. I think God is a forgiving God, and being gay doesn't mean He loves you any less.
I'm sure you didn't ask to be gay, it's just something you are. As I was born being middle-eastern. Make the best of it, sweetie and just pray that things get better. You'll overcome it, i'm sure. It's just a matter of time.
It's the holiday season, so cheer up! :) Put a smile on your face and keep your head held up high!! =)
Goodluck, and Godbless.
2006-12-14 19:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by m. z. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im glad your ok with your self. There are many haters in the word and alot worse things than being gay .........just stay around postive people who love you .........you have to make the decision that your ok and what others say really doesnt matter. Some times people actually say or do things because they know it bothers us these are the ones you pay no attention to
2006-12-14 19:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by lilme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it time...the public has only had since 1985 to adjust to this. Prior to that there was 2000 years of nothing but negativity about this issue. Some people are still confused about it because of religious beliefs and have been programmed to think it is wrong. Deprogramming takes time. Just be who you are and try not to worry about what they think. They don't pay your bills....and have no right to judge you...but some will anyway out of ignorance. Look at it this way...Lincoln freed the slaves but it took them 100 years to gain acceptence and they still have trouble with racism. Women were chattel forever and suffered terribly just trying to be able to vote and things are still not equal for us.
Chin up now.
2006-12-14 19:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-14 22:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a view that I would like to share with you... take from it what you will, and dont absorb what you think is wrong or incorrect....
People hate you for being gay for many reasons... from not understanding, some just hate everyone who is not just like them, some hate just to hate, and others may have had feelings like this in the past and have suppressed them down and made it "wrong" to feel that way (some think you choose to be this way, some think you are the devil or have the devil in you, and most are just ignorant). Some people are actually jealous. But I feel its mostly just ignorance, or misunderstanding. Like others have said above, people tend to hate or fear what they do not understand (this goes for religions, races, genders, sexual pref, and even death).
It bothers you because you would like to be accepted by everyone for who you are, and you fear being who you are, because you dont want to feel like an outsider, an outcast, or just wrong for the way you think or for who you have feelings for. Everyone wants to be loved and accepted, and many people will do just about whatever it takes to do that (including bashing others to "fit in"). It probably also bothers you because you do not understand why they cant simply just accept you for who you are since it makes no difference to them anyway. I get that feeling by what you wrote, about how your ok with yourself and you know it shouldn’t bother you.
The problem seems to be that you are looking at this situation as if you are the cause of it. You defiantly are not the cause of this situation. They are the cause of this situation. You cannot focus on yourself to solve this problem, you must focus on how they are wrong and messed up, not how you are wrong and messed up. Once you accept that they are wrong, you can then love yourself better. I notice you say that you are only "ok" with yourself and thus you need to improve that to you LOVE YOURSELF!
If you have low self esteem (low self love) then others can easily attack you and make you feel down and hurt. If you learn the truth, that you are a wonderful unique individual, who will make a great positive impact on the lives of others and for themselves, then you will be able to take what other people say about you and laugh. The hurt will stop and the laughter will begin. You are allowing them to hurt you. You have the power to stop that by realizing that you are loved by many people, and that you could care less what these ignorant bashers are saying. Typically people bash other people so that they feel superior and better. So you are by far better then them and far superior to them for being an accepting loving individual.
Continue to be yourself, to love yourself, and to take what others say with a grain of salt. Hope this has helped a little. See some good quotes below.
2006-12-14 20:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by calcdffirefighter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people hate gay people not just religious people but also"normal people"
I have mixed feelings their are gay people at my school, I dont look at them weird and I hang out with them and have a great time, but if they ask me"Do you think its wrong for me to be gay? I would say yes, but I would want to still be there friend.
I dont know why it bothers you so much,You probably know because only you know what you been through.
2006-12-14 19:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Iloveu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it truly hurts you, then you better toughen up. It's not like it goes away, you just have to look at the people who hate you and realize they are pretty much inbred losers. They may hate you, but you'll always be a much better person than them (hopefully)
2006-12-14 19:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by noestoli 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because no wants to be rejected and put down," That Simple." I don't hate you, and if you are comfortable with yourself, then stop wasting precious time on the subject and start enjoying your life. Don't let it eat you up.
Have a Happy Holiday
2006-12-14 19:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by lennie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋