Dads having an affair because mum is making his life hell. (21 years of marriage) mum has found the mobile hes been hiding from to chat with his girlfriend. By the way i know my dad hes not having a sexual relationship its an emotional relationship. He already told me about his girlfriend and what mums doing to him. I think divorce is what my mum is probably thinkin.
so what can i do to help stop the fight and let everyone sleep?
2006-12-14 11:18:23 · 14 answers · asked by max 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not much you can do other than stay out of the way and remember how you feel when they are argueing and try never to do that when you have kids. You cant change the way either one of them feels or thinks. Try not to make extra pressures and do your best to do what you are supposed to do. Try not to take sides either since you can never really know what the whole problem is. They are the only ones that can work out thier problems . If you cant sleep then just get some earphones and put the music on and fall asleep to that and close your door. If things get to bad then maybe ask if you could stay at a relatives house and maybe they will get the hint and start acting right.
2006-12-14 11:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by hersheynrey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isnt much you can do to stop it. It will just have to take its course. But I would suggest that you tell your mom and dad how much them fighting in front of you is hurting you, and that might make them realize something. Also it really isnt your dads place to be telling you what is going on. So I think you should tell him he shouldnt be telling you stuff like that. If I were you I would call a meeting, sit them down (if possible) at the dinner table, and tell them how much you love them both, how much it is hurting you, and how much you would like to see them stay together. If that is what you want. And about your dad, just dont listen to what he says, there could be a reason bwhind your mom making his life hell. Know what I mean? And tell them they need to take their fighting elsewhere. I dont know how old you are, but I would also tell them you wanted to go stay with a friend or family member until they stop. I hope this helps abit, and I'm so sorry about your problem.
2006-12-14 11:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by cozmetologydude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adults can forget that others can hear them argue. Try and stay out of the conflict area if you can. Adults will only seek help if they want to. They may not be ready to listen to others. Fighting is sometimes about who has the most power rather than sorting out the problem. Stay safe. Good Luck
2016-05-24 06:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are fighting right now go to them and ask them to please stop. Explain to them that life is so hard right now that you can not handle their constant fighting. Ask them if they would give you a few minutes to talk to them because you are concerned for both of them and you love them both. Tell them how there arguing is affecting you. Try to keep the lines of communication open with them. They may not stop to listen but if you keep trying they will eventually listen to you. But honestly your mother has every right to be upset that your father is having intimate conversations with another women. Help her don't fight her because what your father is doing is wrong. Best of luck to you and your family.
2006-12-14 11:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are u taking dad's side in it, how do u know what he is telling u is true, your poor mom has a right to be mad. mom is acting quite normal, and dad is the one doing the cheating, emotional or not it is still cheating. don't take sides. u can't do anything, but i would tell dad he is doing wrong. cheating is still cheating, even if it is only emotional, and how can u really know what he says is true.
2006-12-14 11:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...i know you probably want your parents together but in some situations its not in your hand, for example in this one. i think your parents would be happier if they got seperated, if they cant stand eachother. if you think there is still a chance of them staying together, then all you can actually do is listen to both sides of the conversation and try giving advice to the one thats wrong. try to make them understand wat each is doing wrong. if they dont understand then let them be. if they stay together by force then they will both be miserable. im sry but there isnt anything that will make this problem go away unless your parents want it to. hope i helped!
2006-12-14 11:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by maryam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell ur mom that u think that they need to sit down and talk there problems out that you cannot keep living this way anymore its not fair to you and its not fair to them tell them that you want them to work this out.. if thats what you want.. and tell them that you cannot sleep at night that you are torn up inside and one way or another that they need to get this fixed... or else you cant live there while they are going at it..
lots of luck happy holidays
2006-12-14 11:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by Beth m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that you love them bolth and what ever they decide is up to them but you would appreciate it if they would talk it out like adults and not act like highschoolers in and out of love. thats all you really can do because they will do what they want anyways. and if you get in the middle it might make more problems.
2006-12-14 11:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. This is your parents business and not yours (even tho it seems like it is). They have to settle this problem by themselves or get professional counseling. And unless you are following your father around, he would not tell you what he does with his gf.
2006-12-14 11:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your parents in sit them down and tell them they are screwed up.
Tell them that you do not want to be party to their squabble any longer and to leave you out of it.
Tell them to be the adults.
Then leave them to figure it out on their own.
2006-12-14 11:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋