what is love? Is there such thing as love at first sight?

Question

please.....can guys help me with this question because i have to write an essay on this topic...

Answer 1

True love is from God. I'm a Christian, I believe in God! And for that reason I believe that there is love at first sight. God sometimes maybe lets people (like me) see right away who He intended them to love and marry. Love is different with everyone because we are all different! You can't describe true love for anyone! Everyone's experience of loving or being in love is totally unique. Because we area all unique!
I am so tired of the people that say smugly, "i believe in lust at first sight" because they don't know. I don't have problems with lust, and I have experienced that feeling of "wow, look, there he is, the guy I was created for". I just looked at his eyes from the side and I got that feeling. I wasn't looking at his body at all.
Please believe me- that even if it hasn't happened to you, or never will, it is POSSIBLE
Please do not listen to these other people. Although they mean well, I know personally that there can be real, true, lasting love (not LUST or INFATUATION! Boy am I sick of those dumb words! People just use them to sound grownup and wierd and fancy shmancy! {not to "dis" you other folks, but that's what it seems like to me :)} at first meeting- and yes, even at first sight. As to what it feels like... everyone is totally different. If you think you are in love, and you love someone very much, more than any one else, than you ARE in love- for the time being. You may, who knows, some day, find someone else who you will be able to love even more. Not because you didn't love the first one- you did, as much as you could at the time. But each new person you fall in love with you seem to be able to love more. Who can say whether we are all in love a dozen times in our life, or if we only "really" love one of those people, or if we never "truly" loved any of them? Love is different for every person, at every different time. Sometimes it makes you sad, sometime it makes you happy, sometime insecure, sometimes confident. No one knows. But if you think you're in love, then tell yourself you are and go with your emotions, whether you become mournfully melancholy or exuberantly happy. There is nothing sweeter than feeling something deeply and telling yourself you're in love, whether it's for an hour or a lifetime- or eternity.
I fell in love from first sight with someone I only met once a year ago. I still am. For many reasons in a long story, we can't contact each other, nor do we "date" so there isn't a questions of all that "faithfulness" junk. But I knew at the first second that I was made for him and someday God will see we marry and live happily ever after. Sometime I will type up the whole story and post it on every "love at first sight" page and question and blog in the whole wide internet. Again, I am not saying that love at first sight is the only right kind of love. Maybe you will hate the person you eventually fall in love with! Maybe it will take you years to gradually love them! Who knows? I am not saying that it is the only true kind of love. With some people, it may take a while to fall in love with thier soulmate. But love at first sight is so very possible! Sometimes the good Lord is kind enough to show you right away. Like he showed me. The moment I saw him standing there, I knew all about him. His character- how kind and sweet he was, how helpful and patient. And don't say I was judging a book by its cover. Later in the day I met up with him again and talked to him for five hours at that wedding reception. And my first impression- that split second thought of "this is who I was created for and am meant to marry" was strengthened. And he is in my every thought and dream. I don't give a passing thought or glance to anyone else- it's just out of the question. I’ve only seen him only 3 times over the years. It’s been so long. But I still love him! I do! It’s real! I fell in love when I was only 13. But that’s how old Juliet was, and it was love at first sight and no one questions her! No one says “Oh, Juliet was so dumb, she didn’t REALLY love romeo, she just killed herself because she THOUGHT she did”. Why should you say that about me?

There is love at first sight.

Not lust.

Not infatuation.

Not a crush.

Not a passing attraction.

Real, true, lasting, beautiful, perfect love.

Believe.

Answer 2

Actually I don't think so because if you think about all the people that get married after they have known each other for 2 weeks the relationship never works. Then if you look at a person that has known another for maybe 2 or 3 years and decide to commit to a future with the other they have a better chance at a good relationship. This is caled an impulsive decision one you decide like *snaps* that really.... if you decide to think it thru you have more of a chance don't you think so??? Not many people thin about it that much that is y the World has a BIG seperation rate. People have been thinking that if they hurry up and decide it'll take the pressure off but, really it doesn't....... but, everything I just said i needed to hear not too long ago......................................

Answer 3

i'm not a guy but ill answer anyway. To me, love is a feeling. I think love develops, rather than coming to you at any given time. I don't believe there is love at first sight. I see it as a psychological thing, when you want to fall in love with someone you set your heart and your mind to it, and eventually you fall in love with someone. You may see someone for the first time and think that you want to be with that person, but it isn't for certain until you get to know the person and see if you actually could love that person...You can't love someone without thinking it, right? Whenever people say i didn't mean to fall in love, i think that's bullsh*t. Love is the feeling you have when you never want to let go of the existence of someone or something you have such a strong attraction to/for. Not to say that it's just attraction. Love is felt when you feel free. The feeling of wantedness...and that's all i have right now.

Answer 4

Hard question.
It can be so many things at different stages in your life. I think my views on love have constantly changed over the years.
When I was in High School, love was wanting to be with my boyfriend every minute.
When I was in College love was knowing that my boyfriend was still there even when I wasnt.
When we got engaged love was about the wedding planning and getting ready to profess that he was the man I wanted to be with forever
When we were first married it was the newness of life with a partner
When we had kids it was that we had created these wonderful human beings together
And now 12 years later through dating and marriage its the little things that we do for each other to make each other happy.

I dont believe in love at first sight per say although I know many stories of it happening. With me there was one specific night when my now husband kissed me that I walked away knowing that he would be the man that I married.

Answer 5

I'm not a guy put yes i be live there is love at first sight iv been married to my husband for 22 years now and i am very happy and it was love at first sight

Answer 6

The moment i saw my fiance i knoew,, there was just something i felt as soon as we looked at each other. . I said in my head "i love him" i just knew it was gonna be. Its been three years and i still feel the same. Its the best thing ever to know that someone love you the same . But yea there is love at first sight and Its not something you plan out . I didnt think it would ever happen to me. I even had a b/f at the time, but i just knew when i saw him, we were meant to be.

Answer 7

If you are asking the question, then you have not experienced it. I have... met my wife on an introduction from my boss at the time, we went on a date, she moved in three weeks later, we talked about marriage and married after 1 year, and here we are almost 20 years later madly in love with each other, spending every free moment together. I hope you find your soul mate, it's absolutely great... then you too will know what love is.

Answer 8

At first you are in fatuated with each other. He's nice looking or she is. Than you date, have fun. Get to know each other. Then you want to be serious. So lets get married. Than you start having kids. And now your husband has health problems. He is dying in the hospitol. You don't want to let him go. He dies in your arms. A man you supported your family finanialy, would go to work on his death bed. Would go with out lunch for a month. To have enough money to buy his love a white leather coat. Who buried their 3 children. All alone. When wife was to ill from having them.
As the years go and she is alone, with her five kids now. Not much money to live on. But must believe he is always watching out for her and the family.
Now she raised the family alone. And now she is old, And sickly, and feels her, only love around her. Waiting for him. And it all started at love at first sight. But the love grew over the years...

Answer 9

I'm not sure about love at first sight. i think that love needs to be built during a relationship. If you dive into love too fast it seems to work out for the worse. My parents got married right after highschool...and then they got divorced 2 years after i was born.

Answer 10

There is not love at first sight but that's a way to describe it. Really it's love at first conversation and very little part of sight.

Answer 11

Love? Nah. Lust at first sight? Yep.

True love takes time to develop. I know I love my boyfriend because he can tick me off to the point of me wanting to push him off of the nearest cliff, but at the end of the day, I know that there is no other person that I'd rather be with. That's love.