2006-12-14 11:16:24 · 6 answers · asked by chante 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i had this problem a few years ago......heres what i did..
i wrote a very long letter to him ,talking about everything we had been threw together,what he ment to me, how much i think about him, what would be different if we were still together, ect. ect.
after i got it all wrote i put it in an envlope,addressed it,stamped it,kissed the letter,tore it up and threw it in the trash! and have not looked back since!
2006-12-14 11:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know it's ok to think about him as long as you don't fantasize about him. I am married and still think about my ex's but not like that. I wonder how they are and what they are doing especially my first one. If you are fantasizing about him then that's not fair to your husband and that means that you aren't over your ex. You should of made sure that you were over him before you married your current husband. I'm not trying to be mean or anything I'm just telling the truth. It is ok to think about him as long as it's normal thoughts. When you see him does your heart still skip a beat like it did when you dated him? Do you see him as your ex or even call him your ex when you talk about him? Or do you still call him your boyfriend? Those are questions you should ask yourself. It's not fair to your husband if your not over your ex and even though you might not believe me but fantasizing about another in your mind is cheating. I hope you'll be honest with your husband if your not over your ex and I'm sure you do love your husband but sometimes loving someone isn't good enough to be with that person unless you are over your ex. I can't tell you how to stop thinking about your ex because usually when someone thinks about their ex in that way that means they aren't over them unless it's normal thoughts like I do when I think about mine.Like I said before it's not fair to your husband if your not over him. You need to search your soul and find out. Only you can do that. I'm telling you this from my heart.
2006-12-14 19:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help if you put all your efforts into maintaining your marriage relationship. Focus on pleasing your husband should help.
2006-12-14 19:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by normy in garden city 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember y u broke up with him.. and remember that you are married to a guy who you love..
or sleep with ur ex.. and tell him good bye forever.. or just say goodbye to him..
lots of luck happy holidays
2006-12-14 19:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by Beth m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry out to God and tell him the truth about what is going on and he will direct your path. Just be true to yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-14 19:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by sharanda f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, listen to your heart, unless your x is a abuser. then get the hell away from him. good girl.
2006-12-14 19:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by bugsandtweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋