I have been talking to this guy for about 3 weeks, and all of a sudeen he uses the "L" word often, tell me he misses me through out the door and text and call me whenever he gets a break at work. The thing is we have never even been out on a date. He is easy to cry and you have to tip toe around his feelings. I don't need anymore signs to tell me that this is something unhealthly. The thing is being that he is like that how do you tell him you want to stop all communication. He has my phone numbers, but he does not know where I stay, and he does not know what part of town I live in. He plans on calling me tonight to pour his heart put to me because he said I just don't know how much I mean to him and he wants me and the whole world to know. We are suppose to go on a date tomorrow, but of course that's not going to happen because that would be crazy on my part. ANY ADVICE will do.
2006-12-14 10:57:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow girl, you need to run...and fast. When he calls tonight, you need to tell him the truth. At this point, any excuse will do. The longer you wait, the harder its going to be and the more clingier he will be. You are right, he is unhealthy and he could very easily become a stalker or a possessive man. He needs to deal with his own issues before he can be in a real relationship.
Be honest--tell him you don't really see the relationship going anywhere. Tell him he is a great person and any woman would be lucky to have him. Brush him off, but in a nice way so he doesn't anger. Then once you have said your peace, do not answer the phone if he calls anymore.
Good luck.
2006-12-14 11:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by ~Shelly~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 04:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only known the guy for three weeks and he is already too needy and emotional......OK, here's what you can try.
Tell him you've been keeping a secret from him and you feel that he has a right to know because it's a serious one.
Tell him that you are in a coven and you are the high priestess.
Warn him that if he does anything to you like hurt your feelings or whatever, that your 'sisters' will come after him with a vengeance.
If he doesn't run then you need to sever all ties by distance and no communication and tell him they don't approve of him.
I hope this helps.
2006-12-14 11:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by Knuckledragger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Well this is a tuff one. I have had a similar situation but it is never easy and the truth is always the best. I was dating a guy for 1yr when we had a serious car accident and he ended up with a brain injury. I was only 16 at this time. When he came to and came back home i wasn't to sure how it was going to be as he was away for 6mths. Yes, he was different but i tried ti stick it out. It wasn't till after another year i realised it wasn't going to work and breaking up with him was the hardest thing i had ever done. I told him the truth and had a lot of support from my friends. You need your friends in your situations cuz it is never easy. Good luck hope i helped.
2006-12-14 11:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by chipmunkz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing like telling him honestly that you aren't ready for a relationship yet. Don't have to advise him or criticize him for what he is. Just ask him to respect and honor your decision and leave you alone, at least for a while. If he is the way you describe him to be, he will be scared to screw things up any further by calling you or asking you out on dates. For him, an approving "lover" in a distance is better than one that "hates" him :-)
2006-12-14 11:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEEN THERE DONE THAT! I just simply stopped calling him, stopped answering his calls, and if i did answer them, come up with some stupid excuse as to why I couldn't talk to him. My brother called him one day and said he was my new bf (lol) but eventually HE wanted to end it, even though I had ended it MONTHS before. But really, if he doesnt know where you live and whatnot, I'd just simply tell him you're not ready for this, you want to end it, if he keeps calling you, have a guy answer.
2006-12-14 11:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easiest way, just quit taking his phone calls. He'll get the message eventually.
Or you could tell him you've gotten back with your ex, and it's not a good idea for him to call anymore.
The more mature way, tell him "I just don't see this going anywhere, and I don't want to lead you on." Be gentle, but be firm. You don't owe him an elaborate explanation, since you've only been "seeing" him for 3 weeks.
2006-12-14 11:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Humberto 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i make it quick and easy....i agree with alot of there ppl...run...two reasons...either he has a few emotional problem which are bad but its to early to act that way or he is trying to play games and suck you in and probably will break your heart.....take it from a man it took a while for me to grow up i admit it....but men will play that needy to get what they want....but like i said run either way it dont look good
2006-12-14 11:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by candyman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to nicely talk to him about this and tell hin that this is his problem and that you need him to be this way with you. You need time and maybe being apart for awhile and seeing other people will be more beneficial at this time.
2006-12-14 11:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have anything that will help.
Bust i did want to respond
And wish you the best of luck !!!
2006-12-14 10:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by heather_honey_2002hs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋