Would you assume that if you were looking in your son's room and he was sleeping with his g/f in his arms, that they had sex?? Would you trust them to be alone together?? Why or why not??
Would you assume that if they were ok with this than they already had sex?? My friend says yes.
I know they are close b/c they have been together for 3 years. I know all his friends have had sex, so are the chances higher then that they(him and his g/f) had sex
2006-12-14 10:45:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Is it ok for him to do this or should I think they already had sex??
2006-12-14 10:46:41 · update #1
If I ask will he actually tell me the truth??
2006-12-14 10:51:16 · update #2
They weren't exactly wearing the most clothes ever, but at least some. Should I be ok with this??
2006-12-14 10:52:10 · update #3
Did his friends probably encourage him to have sex, or his own desires??
2006-12-14 10:54:36 · update #4
one of my brothers was very close with the daughter of our neighbors since they were in diapers. They would have slept overs till they were thirteen or fourteen. They were good friends and they would be in his or her room alone but they were not romantically into each other.
Normally I would not have two teenagers in a room together unattended. did they have sex? I do think that you need to talk to him about what is and isn't appropriate. Don't ask him if he had sex. He will be angry about it either way. Make it about what you saw and not about what you think may have happened. If you have a good relationship with him than he'll probably tell you.
Well here's hoping everything goes well. Bye.
2006-12-14 11:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by mistyfan69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him. He may or may not be honest. If they have been together for three years, I would assume they have been sexual somehow. Do you like the girl? See if she is on birth control. I will let you know the more you try to resist in their relationship they will try harder to be together---Its call the Romeo and Juliet Effect. Be open not forceful. Just make sure they are being responsible at least. It doesn't matter if they are together at your house or at a friends, if they are having sex then it won't matter if you try to not allow them in your home alone. I was a teenager and I had friends that were sneaky enough even if the parents were just in the other room. Its hard to answer some of those questions because we don't actually know your sons personality. Good luck.
2006-12-14 11:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASSUME as the saying goes makes an *** of U and ME.
I never let either my son or daughter be in the room alone with opposite sex friends without us home and then only with the door open.
You could ask him? But please don't jump to conclusions.
And if they are and you are not accusatory to him,he may tell you.
also once we do, as you know we don't stop, so they made need advice on protection and B/C.
I would make it clear though that you are not going to provide the facility.
Now if they are older (college age-ish, then if you allow him to use his room for this, that's not such a big deal in my book).
I knew a lady who said her son never was allowed to be alone with a girl in his room and he knew better than to try. Other friends fine, but no girls! He is grown now and he is gay! He was then too. I'm sure she never dreamed being alone with same sex friends was a problem, then. My point is we can do all we can, but we can't control them totally and they will find a place if they are so inclined to be sexually active.
But you are the parent and it is your home.
2006-12-14 11:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son? I think that it's possible that they're doing something, but it's not necessarily sex. When my boyfriend and I were still just doing oral and hand jobs we often fell asleep in each others arms. I'd say it's safe to assume that he has had sex. I'd talk to him about it and tell the ways to be safe, talk to both of them about it. She needs to know to be safe as well, and possibly talk her into talking to her mom or going to the health department and getting on birth control. After all I'm assuming that you don't want to be a grandma just yet. Good Luck.
2006-12-14 11:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is ur son? i dont know how old he is but he cant be your baby forever. if they have been together for three years and spend that much time together they probably have already had sex. its no point in trying to pull them away from each other because u have already allowed them to become that close. develop a good relationship with him so that he will feel comfortable with him talking to you about it. if he has already then its not much u can do but educate him on his actions and the consequences. the worst thing would b to try and split them up because then he will rebel against u just to be close to her.
2006-12-14 13:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by oohLa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would assume that they probably have. If you let them sleep alone in the same room make them leave the door open. I would just make sure you have had The Talk with him and make sure he knows that he should use protection.. Thats all you can do.. If you don't let them sleep together at your house they will just do it somewhere else but at least they wouldnt be doing it in your home..... Its really up to you.
2006-12-14 10:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by peachescl2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd assume they have had sex, especially since they've been together for three years. And i think that is okay. You just need to talk to him about it, and go over safe sex, stds, and pregnancy, and all of that. Good luck.
2006-12-14 10:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Stark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be honest he s a male he's doin it 3 years mom trus and believe im not gonna even assume me and my boyfriend use to do the same thing when i was 16 and im 17 now he's horny and so is she you shouldnt try to stop him a boy is gonna be a boy
2006-12-14 12:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by sweettastynjuicy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just cant assume things just like that maybe they were tired but if they had sex and didnt want you to know why would they go to sleep right after it?
2006-12-14 10:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
time for a long talk with that son never assume anything you ask. i would also ban said son from dating and no friends near anybedrooms
2006-12-14 10:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋