My boyfriend was supposed 2 be coming back tonight from a 3month stay out of state. But then out the blue his family suprised him and he is spending any extra day. I don't know much about the army reserve but he said that he changed the flight and got back $100. Also his flight is scheduled for the same time tomorrow. I didn't know that the military could allow u to reschedule your flight and still get back $100. Then I got to thinking that his ex's birthday is today (how convienent), but she is here in town (I think) and he is away. Something sounds a little fishy to me. I've been calling him all day and no answer. I don't know but maybe he is hanging out with his family, but I have a gutt feeling that something fishy is going on, I mean I haven't seen him in months. I would think that we would hurry up and come on home since I am leaving out of town of Sunday. Am I jumping to conclusions or is there something fishy going on!! What do u all think! Something's not right!
2006-12-14 10:24:49 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
why don't you take a ride own to his house or his pareants house to see if he is home or out on the town with the other women...
did leave a message on his phone? Well something is up and you not a part of it, by the way do his parents like you???
2006-12-14 10:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by joy ride 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go with your gut, but don't attack him or accuse him of anything just yet! Try bringing up your feelings in a way that doesn't make him put up a wall and get all defensive. You can tell him that you are confused about why he wouldn't want to come see you sooner and that your feelings were kind of hurt by his change of plans. Give him a chance to give his side of the story before you decide to jump to conclusions. The fact that you're thinking he might be with his ex means that you two probably have some trust issues. Ask yourself why. Has he cheated before? If so cheaters usually cheat again. Good luck!!
2006-12-14 18:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by Camille 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kind of military flight he was on that he can get $100 back. You shouldn't worry if you truly love him and you know for a fact he loves you. I was in your situation 2 years ago only I was married to him. I was in Hawaii stationed at Schofield Barracks and my husband went to Arkansas for only 2 weeks and he ended staying there for 3 weeks instead. I was mad at him because he didnt tell me until the last second and he wouldnt tell me why he just said it was because he really missed his family but in my head I was saying hello im your family come back so we can have a life together. I called my brother who was about to leave to go to Iraq and he said that he thinks it bc his "first love" just came into town the day before he was suppose to leave. But he didn't know that and it was really because he missed his family I had my brother watch for me because you always hear the horrow stories about the military men being horny guys who will screw anything walking married or not. But thats only half of the military, do what I learned for being married for 3 years now, talk to him, let him know your feelings about this situation. Thats the best thing about relationships is trust and being able to talk about what one another is feeling so the other one can reasure everything is fine. If he freaks then second guess, because you should know if a guys freaks something is up.
2006-12-17 01:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by armybrat529 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I'm in the military and I can tell you. The fact is, only like 30% of military men are faithful to their wives. And I know from experience, that a soldier ain't gettin no money back from changing his flight date. If he did, let me know the airline. Because I fly all of the time and I have never run across that. If anything they take money. If that girls birthday is today and he's not answering his phone, I'm sorry to tell you but you've been had. No guy in his right mind would skip out on his woman unless he's gettin some fix somewhere else.
2006-12-14 18:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by jpferrierjr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe the reason he isn't answering his phone is because he is out with his parents. Leave him a message... He can tell how many times you called him as well so you don't want to look over anxious.
People in the military can change there plans like a drop of a hat. So, don't get too bend up on that one. Maybe he is taking a flight home or something and can't have his phone on.
I would wait it out, if you get too anxious call his house talk to his mom and be like I'm so excited to see him and I want to surprise him with something do you know exactly when he is coming home? ... that would work. So, then she will let you in on it...
2006-12-14 18:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As some of the other posts said, trust seems to be an issue in your relationship.
How long have you been going out? Before this, was the relationship serious? Christmas is coming. Maybe he wanted help getting you the perfect present and wanted help from his family. I would wait to see how he acts with you. If he is acting different in a way that makes you believe he is not as committed, maybe you could discuss the situation with him.
At any rate with all the questions you have running around in your head, maybe you need to examine if this is right type of relationship for YOU. Having relationships with military personnel is difficult and takes lots of commitment from both for it to work.
I hope it all works out for the best!
2006-12-14 18:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by Camping Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should just plain out ask him. I mean I'm only 14 but I've seen my mother go through these things and most of the time it don't come out pretty. If you don't want 2 do that just casually remind him that it was her b-day and see how reacts. I hope everything works out ok b-tween u 2.
yours truelly,
reecie
2006-12-14 18:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be a novel idea, but how about actually going to the airport early and meeting him on the day that he says he's coming in? Last I checked, they don't let you into the security side unless you are taking off or arriving. (And save the "confrontation" until you are sure there's something to confront him about).
2006-12-16 09:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by lawguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is fishy, your right !! he's been gone a long time and do ya think he would be beating down the door to get home? especially since your days are numbered also... yea... something stinks!!
2006-12-14 18:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by Richard J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually if you have a gut feeling about something, that means weird things may be afoot. Has he lied to you before? Shown longing for the ex? If so, I would be uneasy too.
2006-12-14 18:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋