I am writing him a letter telling him to get help or I'm leaving and taking the baby - What can I say in the letter to really make my point? I think the relationship is worth saving.
2006-12-14 10:12:22 · 20 answers · asked by penny s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if its too much , I'll suggest you , just leave him . but don't write a letter , leave him when he is home . i already crossed this situation . i took him to court too. now we are ok . live to gather happily . some time you have to stand for your rights .
but make sure that you can take your baby well and afford everything
2006-12-14 10:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the baby and leave - forget the letter. When he asks you why you left you tell him, face to face, and don't let him intimidate you. Maybe you think the marriage is worth saving but all too frequently they graduate from verbal abuse to physical abuse. And it's not just you that you have to think about, there is your child. Do you honestly think that he won't be verbally abusive to the child also? Kids are perfect victims, especially when they're your own.
2006-12-14 18:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by hoosiergal0946 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is abusive anyway, reading a letter that u are leaving, will only make him more abusive to u, maybe physical this time. what u want is for him to change, and treat u right. why not ask him if he would be willing to go to therapy, if not and he gets no help, u need to leave him, and not look back. u are odviously afraid to talk to the man, for fear he will emotionally attack u, and make u feel even worse. if it is worth saving, than confront him, ask him to go to therapy with you.
2006-12-14 18:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is abuse, hon. Does he know that he has been abusive? And have you told him? If so, then you give him the ultimatum: "We either go for counseling, or I am leaving". And if he too thinks the relationship is worth saving, he will go. If not, guess what? you go, or you stay and continue to take it.... This one is a no-brainer, hon. Your child deserves to grow up in a loving environment... You deserve to be loved and cherished as wife and mother... life is tooo short to waste it in resentment, and hoping someone will change.
2006-12-14 19:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bother with the letter. Taking the child and leaving is a much more forceful statement.
FP
2006-12-14 18:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A letter? Come on. You need to grow a pair and deliver the ultimatum verbally.
2006-12-14 18:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time he verbally abusive. just say i got nothing to say to u. im out take the baby and leave. come back tomorrow and see how he acts. if the same thing leave his a**.
2006-12-14 18:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he would feel if you treated him the same way he is treating you. You have feelings too. Tell him that you love and care for him BUT you can't take the verbal abuse anymore.
2006-12-14 18:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by cheeks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't bother writing a letter just go, there are shelters you and your baby can go to,or try to stay with a friend that wouldn't tell him where your were.
2006-12-14 18:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by KP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the letter, tell him to get help or you're walking!
2006-12-14 18:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by Pildi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋