This guy i work with that is my boss flirts with me and winks at me mostly when no one is looking. He notices everything about me such as my tan, hair and french manicure on my feet. We had a company trip 2 months ago and we were side by side the whole trip we had few drinks one night and laughhed and relaxed and totally enjoyed each others company we touched like rubbing backs and stuff but thats it. He tells the guys at work he and his wife are just room mates. He looks directly into my eyes when he talks to me and in meetings he even looks at me when he is talking to a crowd. I feel something when he looks into my eyes that I have never felt before. Now he has been giving me mixed signals though like bringing up his wifes name alot and showing me what he got her for christmas. Is he wanting me to get the hint or is he still interested in me or was he ever? One time I told him to blow me a kiss and he said "I would be fired if I did that " Is he just scared?
2006-12-14 10:10:59 · 40 answers · asked by kd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He treats his wife wonderfully He is every womans dream. He has never had an affair It is not like that! I just think it happened between us neither of us was looking we are just so atttracted
2006-12-14 10:16:54 · update #1
I cant help it I want him and his wife does not appreciate him all she does is put him down. He is the most wonderful man I have ever met and so intelligent.
2006-12-14 10:30:11 · update #2
Sounds like he is also confused between wanting something with you ( an obvious affair) and doing the right thing by his wife (moral battle), you need to be the adult and stop things now. The work place should be kept professional, other wise it becomes hostile.
2006-12-14 10:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the real question is how much do you value yourself? I tell all of my female friends that they need to remember that they are the prize, not the contestant. He may have some great qualities, but he certainly isn't every womans dream. Because I doubt that any woman looking for a good man wants to be involved with one who is married. Tell him to drop the signals altogether and leave you alone. You deserve someone better than a married man who flirts with his subordinate coworkers.
2006-12-14 11:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes nothing says treating your wife wonderfully like giving another woman back rubs, flirting with her, telling everyone they are just roommates, and staring at her with bedroom eyes. Boy he really treats her like a queen, huh?
You are a shameless marriage-wrecking wh*re wanting kisses blown to you from a married man, (that's not the only blowing that will be happening soon, mark my words) and he is a lying cheating snake who thinks with his pathetic little pecker. You two soul-less cheaters deserve each other -- but remember - if you meet him when he's cheating you will lose him when he's cheating.
Enjoy!
2006-12-14 10:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is trying to figure out about you is just how desperate and insecure are you? As long as you are inferior to him [mentally and emotionally] you are easy prey for a few "good times" and nothing more. If his marriage is in trouble, he is partly to blame. Is that what you want? a man who will cheat on his wife just to distract himself from the problems he had a hand in creating? Have some dignity and steer clear of him!
2006-12-14 10:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by Indievoter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what I say...never mess with another woman's man. If he and his wife are so much like room mates, why does he stay. I would fore go the affair with the boss. Your job will be in jeopardy and so will your heart when you fall for him and he never leaves his wife for you. Then there's always that karma thing.
2006-12-14 10:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're just reading too hard into what you think are his "signals", which to me sounds like they're really not. Besides there are two big strike against pursuing this guy: 1) hes YOUR BOSS ans 2) he's MARRIED! Go find an unmarried guy who has no control how good your next evaluation is.
2006-12-14 10:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by shyvicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boss cannot do what he is already doing. These are all considered sexual harassment however you dont see them that way or else he would be gone already. Your boss cannot date you as he does your annual review and this will appear to b e a conflict of interest. If you want to be with him you must move to a different dept so he is no longer your boss. He must get a divorce and then it will be okay to date him
2006-12-14 10:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is scared that you will turn into an office slut and be available to him sexually. He is married. Remind him of that and find yourself an available guy. I have a friend who works nights in Omaha at Qwest (computers) who has slept with no fewer that three coworkers (that I know of) and is now considered an office slut. Ask A. Mesa in Seattle if you don't believe me! Then there's 'Bob' in Denver who no longer works for Qwest, and a no-named guy she initially screwed back in 1985... You want to have those empty memories?
2006-12-14 10:20:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is desparately insecure and is looking for some kind of validation with you, a woman that is willing to allow his indiscretions to be 'alright.' Just remember that if a married man cheats on his wife with you, he'll cheat on you with someone else. Men don't ever change.
FP
2006-12-14 10:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably confused. He seems to like you...but every time he notice that, then he mention her wife...to tell you that he is not interested...indeed he wants you with his heart...but he steps back with his head...CZ ...a lot of things would get complicated...(working same place, his wife).
My advice would be...just wait and see what happens. I would suggest you to do nothing until he is married...you will complicate your life too...
Never mess with a married man...you will get hurt sooner or later.
good luck.
2006-12-14 10:15:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋