Since I am married, our sex life is wack. Its like he is 16 years old. He has no stamina anymore. I dont know if its me or him. I tried to talk about it to him but he gets offended or has a pity party. What can I do? Help Me!!!!
2006-12-14 10:07:38 · 23 answers · asked by daprty1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Force a little foreplay on him. Maybe even "please" each other without having intercourse. Try new things. I saw someone suggested toys... why not? Sounds like it has become a routine. Just think of a few new things to spice it up! Maybe even Video Tape yourselves.... he wouldn't want to have a weak performance documented on film would he? Good luck.
2006-12-14 10:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, a 16 year old has a lot of stamina.
In any case:
You should bring new experiences into the sexual area, talk about your kinks and try to discover something new you both can enjoy.
I'm not interested in these things, but some ideas are: bondage, roleplay (the nurse outfit, fireman, etc.), handcuffs, becoming a swinger, trying a threesome, sex in risky situations and public places, simply trying to do it in a new place (like a hotel, the kitchen or a lonely beach, etc.), a bath together, music, tantra, the Kama Sutra, a candle dinner and the list goes on and on.
Basically... one of the main reasons sexual relationships become dull after marriage is because of the rutine. You should try to look for something new to add to the relationship to spice it up, something you both can enjoy.
2006-12-14 10:14:25 · answer #2 · answered by Somebody, somewhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is a threat that you probably have sex that you'll get pregnant and with the intention to for definite trade you existence, pro-lifestyles or professional-option, you may nonetheless have got to handle the fact that you will have a human growing in you, there's also a danger of contracting an STD which might also exchange your life. Sex can be emotional as well as bodily, if your partner dumps you rapidly once you have intercourse you can probably believe used and that feeling that you lost your virginity to anybody who never cared about which you can be devastating
2016-08-10 01:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by wojtowicz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once these problems start to escalate, the subconcious mind takes over and they only become worse, fears set in, performance fears, not knowing what is happening to ones self, self assurance drops. ED is a serious problem that can only grow if not treated now, and WITH your support. If it is premature ejaculation then mabey some Zoloft will do him good. Tell him he needs to see a urologyst for real medical advise and a check up. (prostate). ED strikes mostly men in there late 30's and 40's but it really has no age limit.
2006-12-14 10:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be under stress from his job... finances, or family. Go on a vacation together, even if it's for a few days and see if he reacts differently when he's relaxed.
Also, when you have a moment alone with him and he's in a good mood, try communicating in a low key, concerned tone. Maybe you'll find out that he's dealing with pressure in one of those areas mentioned or it may be something else that's jackin with him. Either way...be calm, invite him to go on dates with you once a month or once every other week... and be supportive. Eventually he'll open up and tell you what's going on.
2006-12-14 10:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time on fore-play. It's hard for us guys to talk about things like that...even with our significant other. He could just be embarrassed to talk about it. What worked for you guys before? Try that with some new stuff mixed in. Toys was a good answer too. :P It has to be fun and enjoyable for both of you.
I don't think bringing someone else in is the answer to your question. Not for a marriage anyway. Guys (probably girls too) are very visual, if you do it with the lights out try to keep them on from now on.
2006-12-14 10:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by youcheckibet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your life gotten real busy ?
If so he is probably overwhelmed and stressed That will make a male lose his stamina and not perform well.
Do all you can to get him to slow his life down.
Enjoy plenty of relaxation time together That should help.
2006-12-14 10:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by burner217 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find the root of the problem. It sounds deeper than sex. Maybe he's depressed or something. It could be anything really.
2006-12-14 10:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing something ... special for him(dress up, bring someone else in, use toys). Talk to him saying you think its you, so he won't be offended. Get him to help himslef out beforehand, he will last longer.
2006-12-14 10:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by beachbabe1881 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what is causing the problems...
Is it boredom, is it lack of exercise, is it dietary, is it medical???
Find out what he wants (sexual fantasy)... Give him some dietary supplements (Testosterone stimulators, Horny Goat Weed, Gingko Biloba)... Get him signed up at a gym...
All sorts you can do to increase sex... :D
Or get yourself some on the side... ;)
2006-12-14 10:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋