they divorced 7 years ago and now my dad is married to the woman he had an affair with
2006-12-14 10:03:57 · 37 answers · asked by prtygrl_987_292 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there's not really anything you can do.
but i think you're referring to how to respond to your father's wife. i can understand there would be some feelings of resentment towards both your father and his wife, probably due to feelings of protection for your mother.
however, just know that parents are people who make stupid decisions based on emotions and ego too. the relationship your parents had obviously had its problems and your father needed to move on.
be honest with all the adults involved about how you feel, whether it be angry, confused, betrayed etc; i'm sure they would get it.
but, ultimately, these were decisions your father made, and it can't be changed, nor are you responsible.
all the best.
2006-12-14 10:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you do anything? He didn't cheat on you. If your relationship with your dad and your stepmom has been OK then let it go. Marriages sometimes fall apart. If he has been married to the other woman all this time then the truth is he fell out of love with your mother and in love with someone else. Even if your stepmom had not been around he and your mom would probably have ended up divorced. The only thing you should be concerned with is YOUR relationship with your father.
2006-12-14 10:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by hoosiergal0946 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never get to emotional with what happened or the reason of your parent's divorce. It can just be too draining on the mind. I'm not saying don't care, just don't go crazy over something you cant control. If your mother law is nice and you already like her from before, then forgive them and move on. I'm sure they have. As long as both your parent's are happy then all should be forgotten. Parents arent perfect either, your dad was wrong but you cant stop your relationship with him. He'll always be your dad. But I hope your mom moved and is well, and if she hasn't then be their for her. Parents need us just as we need them. Good luck.
2006-12-14 10:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by me me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand once you find out, your father's image may not be the same anymore, BUT I will just let it go. Since it's been like 7 years ago, there is no point to talk about it now.
Nothing is gonna change. Why not enjoy your relationship with dad as much as you can. People make mistakes you know, and that nobody is perfect.
2006-12-14 10:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As so sad as it is that your folks are divorced the fact of the matter is that they are--and its not your cross to bear--I think that at least he had the decency to divorce your Mom and move on instead of just staying with her and being unfaithful---They didn't get along as well as you might of thought other wise he would not of found a new woman to share his life with---and to be honest he is happy and I think we all need to reach a point in our lives that we need to be thankful for that--Does he still love you?? Do you talk and spend time together?? If so that's what really matters--
2006-12-14 10:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are probably lots of reasons your parents divorced. Nothing is ever as simple as it seems. The adults involved made their decisions several years ago and have since moved on with their lives. So should you. Good luck.
2006-12-14 12:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad did what he did. Do you want to be friends or is it more important to point fingers. Remember how you felt when you found out and live your life in a way that you never hurt anyone the way he has hurt you and your mom. It isn't going to do anyone any good to just be mad and vengful. There will come a day when you can let him know how he hurt you.Remember that everythings gonna be alright.
2006-12-14 10:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by Gary S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to forgive him and his wife and move on. It isn't your place to get in the middle of this and if your dad is happy with new wife and your mom has moved on, what is there for you to do or say? This situation has already played out with your mom and dad. You're going to have to get over it and let it go. If you can't get passed it, then you may need to talk to a counselor to help you deal with it. Good luck to you.
2006-12-14 10:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by creole woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that your dad cheated on your mom, not on you. Presumably both your mom and dad love you and you love them. Of course, it's understandable that you're working through a lot of emotions about this because this revelation is new to you even though it's 7 years old to the main players.
And that's what you have to remember. Although you were undoubtedly affected, you are not a main player in this.
Try to understand that your mom and dad are both human, allow them to have their issues with each other. If you have issues with your dad, have them on your own account and not on behalf of your mom.
2006-12-14 10:08:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That mess is between your parents. Mind your own business and just be supportive of your mom. Don't ask any questions and if she decides to share the information and she wants to talk with you... just be a listening ear.
Your dad will eventually answer for his behavior.
What goes around..... comes around.
In the meantime... show him love and pray for him.
2006-12-14 10:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋