I'd never cheat on my wife, but I work with a lot of attractive women and often wonder what it would be like to hook up. In reality, I don't even talk to these women and worry too much about disease and all that. Plus, I really do love my wife and wouldn't never do that. But, I'm not blind. Do women do this too?
2006-12-14 09:56:02 · 31 answers · asked by theodore r 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IT'S ABSOLUTELY NORMAL AND OK , AS LONG AS IT STAYS ONLY A FANTASY! IT'S NOT WORTH IT TO LOSE YOUR WIFE JUST FOR A FANTASY? EVERYBODY HAS FANTASIES- IT'S NORMAL, IT'S EVEN GOOD FOR THE HEALTH OF THE RELATIONSHIP. BUT ONCE AGAIN- AS LONG AS IT SAYS ONLY A FANTASY! A PIECE OF ADVICE FROM ME- DON'T SHARE IT WITH YOUR WIFE WITH ALL THE DETAILS. IT WOULD HURT HER. WOMEN DO THAT ALSO.
2006-12-14 10:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It think it's normal, but not necessarily beneficial. Fantasizing about other women can really effect your level of intimacy with your own wife. I heard it said that it's better to "starve your eyes" so that you appreciate what you have at home. Dude, don't get me wrong, I'm not blind, and I see all these pretty women too, but I'm more interested in having a long term, passionate relationship with my wife that getting my short term jollies off some chick that doesn't even know my name (or even the thought of it.) I'm probably a minority in this, but at the end of the day, it's just me, my wife and God.
2006-12-14 18:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by noshame 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's totally normal. It works both ways. It's great to hear you say that you are a commited man and your wife should be greatful for this. As long as you do not act on your "feelings" you will be fine and safe. DO NOT go have a drink with any other woman unless your wife is present!! I have to say that sometimes when i have a conversation with an attractive man, it's makes me want to desire my husband more. Sounds like you are a muture adult so i can say, if i feel that "tingling" sensation towards anyone else, i re-direct it towards my husband which shoudl be the ony person i should EVER be with. Again, there is nothing wrong with fantisizing, i think it just makes your sexaual relationship stronger if you re-direct it towards your spouse. Otherwise, it can be unhealthy. Hey,,,,,, it's ok to look just don't touch!!!!
2006-12-14 18:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by Flaca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never do this. I think that even fantasizing is a form of cheating, because it's a betrayal. When I'm with someone in a committed relationship, I have no reason to let my mind wander to someone else. Sure, I notice when people are good looking or physically attractive, but I have no sexual attraction towards anyone but the person I'm with. I just don't think it's right.
2006-12-14 18:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by Rhianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think from personal experience that when u get to that point something is lacking in your relationship. It happened to me when i was married. I am no longer married and have been with my current partner for almost as long as my marrage. I dont get those feelings with him at all although I still look at and admire good looking guys I dont fantasize about jumping in bed with them cause my man is always better in my mind. You need to think if the tables were reversed would you agree that it be fine for your wife to do the same? Hope this helps some anyway. Goodluck!!
2006-12-14 18:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♥wattha♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being attracted to members of the opposite sex is normal. It is basic animal attraction. I do fantasies about the same things. I, however share this with my husband. and vise versa. (we have a strange and unusual relationship) Are these things you can discuss with your wife? If not I would work diligently at redirecting the energy where it should be, on your wife. She might become very hurt otherwise. And it does not sound like that is what you would like to see happen.
2006-12-14 18:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's very normal. Men and women do it. Just make sure you don't ACT on these desires and make sure you still look for attractive qualities in your wife. When you find yourself oggling another women, think of one of your wife's qualities you find sexy. This may help with the fantasizing.. IF it's a problem for you.. =)
2006-12-14 17:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by SaintsFan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people fantasize about other women/men, but if your not acting upon it then it's not an issue and normal for most. If the fantasies start taking up all your time or you find yourself getting ready to act on them.....then you have a problem =)
2006-12-14 18:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its just me, but i dont think its really "normal" to fantasize about hooking up while your married. You say that you would never cheat on your wife, but why do u think about it then? Im not trying to be mean, im just saying.. I dont know about all women, but all that i kno dont do that. If you fantasize about trying new things, try them with your wife.
2006-12-14 17:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by Dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be some sort of freak. Nobody I've ever met has ever been attracted to attractive women. I think this is an isolated case. Go to a doctor and check it out.
2006-12-14 17:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by Shamudog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋