Should gay guys have their own shower room?

Question

I ask this on your gay section because I feel violated when I am in the showers because you gay guys keep looking. NEVER did I have problems with guys looking in my direction. I don't take showers anymore at the gym.

Do you think it discrimantes your rights that we seperate showers for gays and normal guys'?

WHO CARES???????????? IF THIS IS THE CASE THEN WHY DON'T MEN AND WOMEN SHOWER TOGETHER?

Answer 1

I'm not gay...but yes I think it discriminates against gay men. I am a heterosexual woman and I don't feel any different in a locker room with gay women. Try to just move past it and accept people where they are. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Why does it bother you when you THINK another guy is looking at you. It's all in your head. I'm sure you're not all that that all guys can't help but check you out, unless you're deformed down there, are you?

Separate showers for straights and gays, what a blast from the past when they had colored fountains and white fountains, colored rest rooms and white rest rooms. You must be joking right?

I think you are handling the situation exactly as any mature man would, don't take a shower at the gym if you are uncomforatable with others looking at you, whether they be straight or gay or undecided. It's an immature questions posed by someone who already knows the answer.

Answer 3

The person you are talking about might just be curious, just because someone looks doesn't mean they are gay. There is also a possibility that you have a testosterone imbalance.

And yes I find it discriminating, the idea of changing shower rooms for gays and straights, that will turn this into an imitation of racial segregation from the late 1800's - please don't use "normal" for straight, that is very stereotypical. I have never really been in a shower room or whatever, so I have no clue, but I guess New York is different from where you live.

Answer 4

First, gays are normal people who just happen to be gay. No, I do not feel that gays should have seperate showers. That would be saying that gays are 2nd class citizans. You want to segregate gays and straights in the same way some southerners wanted to segregate between whites and other races. Also, did you know that 10% of all males are gay? Most just remain in the closet. Only 10% of males are exclusively straight. That means 80% are bisexual. Seems high, I know. However, most can ignore those feelings and consider themselfs straight. So, that means that 90% of men have same sex feelings. Kinda puts a different prospective with those 30 guys in the shower and the one that appears gay.

Answer 5

No, i do not imagine it will be like showering contained in the ladies locker room for a guy. Why would it not? Who says the different adult males would also be eye-catching to him, or that the gay athlete ought to no longer probably administration his urges and emotions? also, it would unmarried him out and isolate him even more effective than he's in all possibility to sense. i visit't imagine any achievable advantages, except to make the communities homophobes somewhat extra mushy (out of sight, out of concepts?). lower than those situations, if I were a gay athlete, i'd keep it a secret besides. I easily does no longer sense solid adequate to go back out, and that i have large appreciate for all people who's. I believe the above submit; i does no longer have any complications in any respect sharing a locker room or a bath with a gay. yet i'm also no longer naive adequate to insist that i have not already.

Answer 6

No. But I think showers should be privacy modules. Apart from exhibitionism I would think some gays and lesbians might be a bit uneasy showering with each other for the same reason many heterosexuals would be uneasy showering with the opposite sex.

I don't think it's fair to say heterosexuals are homophobic for not wanting to shower with gays and lesbians. How is this any different from women not showering with straight men? I'm a heterosexual guy who guards his modesty as his dignity. I wouldn't shower with a bunch of guys even if they were straight. But not wanting to exspose myself to gays or women doesn't make me a homophobic misogynist just a modest person. Instead of arguing discrimination against gays(BTW I don't have a problem with gay marriage) we should be arguing personal modesty regardless of who is uncomfortable being seen by whom.

Answer 7

no one should look at people when they shower.
if someone is doing this inappropreatly then report them.
I'm bi and have conversation with girls in the locker room (and I normally look at people when speaking to them). I just use self control and keep it non-sexual.
the only issue with this that people have to identify themselves publicly as gay or straight (and us Bi people wouldn't know where to go!).


its weird and unexplanable but on some levels I (personally0 have no sexual orientation, only a sex-female. when I cahnge with other girls I just think of us as two of the same.
Like is has been suggested there is nothing wrong with co-ed showers, because people have self-control.
personally I wouldn't want co-ed showers because women understand women and men might be an issue. When me and a bunch of girls are changing with our stubbly arm pits and long leg hair, we understand that we shave when we go out but we don't shave all the time. We also understand stretchmarks. although many sophistocated men can understand these things, some don't.

Answer 8

Yes, it would be discriminatory. I don't know the circumstances, so I won't make accusations of you being conceited or homophobic (though I suspect this question may get some similar results). Since I don't know the specifics of the circumstances, all I can say is that if there is anything that you're uncomfortable with going on in the showers, you should report it to the gym management. It would be discriminatory to subject a whole group of people to different rules (which couldn't be enforced, anyway). However, it's not discriminatory to report someone who is overstepping boundaries and making yourself and possibly others uncomfortable.

Answer 9

I frankly don't know whether men and women should have separate showers (except that men are so sloppy and I do realize it is a big bonding thing).

But the reality is everyone, gay, lesbian, hetero should be expected to control themselves in the sight of a person who may be attactive to them.

This is the old rationale for women having to be all covered up. The men could not control themselves. And this is the thing with the burqa and hijab. Our Muslim friends feel men are incapable of controlling themselves and this is the justification for the subjugation of women's expression of their beauty and sexuality.

Well--that all disappeared with second wave feminism--and the rise of hemlines.

It shouldn't be an issue anywhere. Just like the excuse she was "asking for it" dosen't work as a defense to rape any more.

Answer 10

Communal showers are one of the benefits of being gay. I do, however, keep my viewing pleasure discreet enough so as not to make the poor little hetboys uncomfortable.

But, this question does validate the theory that some straight guys are uncomfortable with gay guys because they fear gay men will treat them the way they treat women.

Answer 11

yes it is a discrimantes who cares if there gay deal with it! Guy is a guy no matter what they are if u dont feel comfortable than take a shower at ur own place!