nosy parents?

Question

why do parents hav to be so nosy
and controlling?
they should stay out of ur lives and get back to their own!

Answer 1

It is a parent's responsibility to tend to their children, to keep their children safe and to teach their children how to be responsible adults.

If you have a problem with how your parents are doing these things, unless they are being abusive, you will have to deal with it. And, no, taking away privileges such as a phone, time going out with friends, time on-line, etc, are not abuse. Beating you, not feeding you, not educating you, not making sure you have adequate shelter... these things are abuse. Just because you don't like what is going on does not automatically make it abuse.

You are a minor. You live under your parent's roof, depend on them for your daily bread, the bed you sleep in and even the pot you pee in. Even if you paid for what you have, under the law until you are 18 you don't own it. It is the property of your parents. Anything that you have or anything that you consider yours, in the eyes of the law, is being lent to you by your parents.

You do not live in a Democracy! Your parents may be open to listening to your opinions on what goes on in their home, but that does not mean that you have any power when it comes to decisions.

You may take your parent's actions (whatever they may be) a bit better if you understand and accept one major point: they are doing what they are doing because they love you and want you to grow up to be a good person.

If you don't like life as your parents are giving it to you, well, tough. Unless they are abusive (as general society would see it, not as commiserating teens would see it), your only option is to grow up and move out.

You are living in their home, eating their food, using their utilities and taking up their space.

Get grateful.

Answer 2

Not knowing how old you are: What you call nosiness they probably call love. Right now in your life there are a lot of choices to be made. They are trying to keep you from making wrong choices. I found that when I was a teen that the more communicating I did with my parents the less they worried about the choices I made. Not that I made all the right ones.

Answer 3

When you become a parent, you will find out.

One day, your children will be saying the same thing about you that you are saying about your parents.

ALSO - you said "they should stay out of ur lives and get back to their own!" - YOU ARE THEIR LIFE. You have been their life for the last however many years you've been alive.

Answer 4

Your parents have been where you have yet to go. They know a little bit more than you and what they do, they do in order to protect you from your own ignorance. Be glad you have parents who care enough to attempt to protect you. If you are hiding facts about your life from your parents, you're the one who needs to examine your behavior because there should not be anything in your life that you have to hide from them. After you're an adult, then you can tell them to butt out.

Answer 5

That is what parents do. Teenagers don't talk to them so they have to be nosy. It just meens they love you so much and they don't want anything bad to happen to you. When you have kids you will be the same way.

Answer 6

Are you a parent? If so and a new one, I'm sure your children will be asking the same question of you. Not to be offesive. But we only want what is best for our children and loved ones in gerneral

Answer 7

If you move out - solution solved. If you still live with them then you need to follow their rules. One of these days you'll understand and learn to look at the situation from ALL sides, not just your own. Parents have a tough job these days raising kids especially ones that don't appreciate and think they whole world revolves around them.

Answer 8

Because until you are 18 they are responsible for you. And if you don't like it why don't you save your allowance and MOVE OUT???? I think the better question here is why are teens so ungrateful for the things their parents do for them and why do they try to hide things if they are doing nothing wrong???? Get it right!!!

Answer 9

There trying to protect you from doing anything stupid, I use to be annoyed by it all the time, but now that I'm a mother I can understand, you just want the best for your children!

Answer 10

I think it is okay if a parent is concerned but they shouldn't be strict and in ALL of our business like going and snooping in our rooms and reading are stuff. That is just plain disrespectful. You may be in their house but we still deserve privacy.