we have been married for 16 years, and the last 5 have been hell. She got mad because i ask her if she could go out and get a job and she blew-up, she said that she should not have to, but that is when it all started. The last 3 years i have been going though cancer treatmentsnot knowing if i was going to live or die. She was there fisicaly but not emotionaly.Our kids are glad that dad came back sohe could be a better person forthe family , see dad did'nt do to much with everone,dad was all work and then play, now dad after facing death has a hole new out look on life, wife doz not want any part of me is not happy i came bake from allmost dieing says i'm not the person i was and that i'm half the person that i was before all of this. So she left me and took 3 of our 5 kids and left me hanging and 2 kids and no were to go. Ihave been trying to talk to her about getting back together for us and the kids, but she wont talk to me she says that there is nothing to talk about.
2006-12-14 09:35:18 · 9 answers · asked by jammin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-12-14 09:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude ,I hate to hear about your situation,and am sorry for you,but it sounds alot like what me and my ex have been through except for the cancer part,the only comfort I can offer you is the fact that some women as well as men are selfish,self centered ,and don't appreciate others for what they do for their families,they want their cake and eat it too,they prefer to be spoiled and don't take the responsibilities that others think and see they need to take untill it's to late.as long as the children appreciate what you are doing and have done for the betterment of the family than take what you can get and go from there,you might want to initiate counseling ,you and the kids and maybe she will open her eyes and see, if not,then follow through with your heart and don't let negativity drag you down. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-14 17:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ahh... there's nothing like a major relationship stressor to tear a marriage apart. some situations give an added perspective to a person that you normally wouldn't have. maybe your survival has changed you in such a way, she can't cope with it. all you can do is accept it and move on, man. as much as that sucks, you can't force her to "get" you all over again. i wish you the best and congratulations on winning your battle with cancer.
2006-12-14 17:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....first I want to say CONGRATULATIONS on fighting cancer and winning. Second, it is so sad that your wife is treating you that way. Sometimes people do change and grow apart. You can't force her to stay with you or have feelings she doesn't. I think if she treats you bad you should move on with your life and find someone who does care about you...You deserve to be happy!!!!
2006-12-14 17:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by **sumluv** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch....cold cold woman.....congratulations on surviving your cancer...you will survive this too...you deserve better....with the years that you have left, surround yourself only with people who add value to your life....stay away from negative people....do all the things that you never got to do when you were working to support her sorry butt all those years...live..like you've never lived before....spend time with the kids....spend time with friends...walk, look, see, smell......don't worry about the other stuff.....I too have survived cancer and know what it is like to wake up one day not wanting to miss another thing...not wanting to give all your time to a job.....I wish you health, love, happiness, joy and the strength to make that all happen for yourself.....good luck
2006-12-14 17:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got you beat I was married 25 years and my X still ain't changed.So I change the situation for him I LEFT and went on with my life.It takes two to work things out and if he is not willing to work with you then deal with it or move on.
2006-12-14 17:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she tried and you didnt listen ...and now shes fed up
2006-12-14 17:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to remain married to you...
Divorce her...
2006-12-14 17:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! She sounds like a complete BIAAATCH!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-14 17:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋