It doesn't help me with my confidence or self-esteem. I hate it so much. How can I build confidence? I love myself and who I am as a person, I just don't have confidence in the knowledge area and my parents thinking I'm stupid isn't helping me and I hate it and get so frustrated!
2006-12-14 09:33:46 · 6 answers · asked by missprissy1004 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
many people think that being a person with diplomas is the right answer , i think that all you need is practically intelligence , to know what to do practically not theoretically .
all of us felled this problem between 10-18 years period. i felted too but i was strong , no mater how they called me i knew that isn't right and i knew that i am just normal.
you can try and see if the problem is really you. i think that the real problem are they. they tell you that you are no good from this explanation:
the parents feel a little threaten when their kids grow, they feel that the kid is more intelligent then they and start to attache with this non-sense. the truth is that is evolution and not involution. the kids are smarter then their parents.
2006-12-14 10:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by dexter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear your parents have mean things to say about you. But you know what, that's exactly how they feel about themselves. If they felt smart and pretty, they wouldn't have the nerve to tell you you weren't. Because they made you. So, if you feel comfortable with yourself, that's most important. But I think they are threatened that you are already confident and smart. Obviously you must be doing well in school or have good friendships. To build confidence, have a talk with them. Sit them down and say, "I know you are my parents and you love me. But I don't understand why you tell me that I am stupid and ugly. I know you can't mean that because I'm your child and I know deep down inside you love me. So tell me why you say these things to hurt me." Then they will apologize and say they are having a rough time, etc. But the only person in life who can let people take away your confidence is you...so don't let that happen. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-14 17:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by nochickenhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, how can you be stupid & ugly??? Your parents made you, if you say that then one of them must pass the characteristic down to you (unless you are adopted) in order to be like that. I got a ugly cousin that has a scary dad and ugly mom!
2006-12-14 17:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by First L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a very abusive way to think of your own child--you should see a counselor hun--and by the way you dont sound stupid at all--good luck to you
2006-12-14 17:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by kelly r 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thats awful. i am sorry for u.
yeah u don't sound stupid me either. your grammer and spelling at first glance appears to be very well written.
2006-12-14 17:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents need to support you. you are thier duaghter. do things to get their attention(good). if all else fails, scream for them to treat you better
2006-12-14 17:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by jimbeach37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋