Should i keep her secret or tell her parents?

Question

okay i have this friend and she goes to my church. she has gotten pregnant before and had a miscarage ( she is very thin) She has a boyfriend ( brother to the one who got her pregnant) and i think she really needs help. she doesn't tell her mom anything and recently got in trouble because she told our youth pastor that it was okay to pick up her boyfriend on a 2 hour trip to a mall (we live in a small town) long story short.. he called her dad and she is in BIG BIG trouble ... i dunno... she's already in enough trouble and she trusted me with her secret(s).
thanks for your help.

Answer 1

if ur her friend, you should help her. you're not helping by not doing anything. if you think telling her parents will help her, then by all means do tell, if not, think of other ways.
if nothing works, throw her down a well.

Answer 2

Well, Skater, I believe the secret is out after posting it on Y!A where millions of people peer into. I would suggest before she gets into more trouble, that you have a heart to heart talk with your friend in Christ. Talking to her may signal that someone cares for her, because of the things that you have mentioned about her, makes her way of finding affection a little dangerous. Like sexually transmitted diseases, two brothers fighting, or even starting hate between them. She needs to grow up and live wisely, and if a church person, at least try to attempt to live by the word of God.

Answer 3

Whoever This Is, She Needs Help. Consult Your Pastor, And Make the Best Of It, Or Tell Her Parents And Move On With It. Her Choice From There.

Answer 4

Oh Little Miss Goodie Two Shoes. This is a time to step up to the plate and let your sister know you overheard some of their little chit chatting. Do not make her wrong but get into the same conversation with her. This way you can guide her if need be. Oh, destroy the tape. It will haunt you if it is ever found or used for personal gain.

Answer 5

well telling her parents is probaly the right thing to do because her parents will be able to help her but the truth is she might just get into more trouble. Also she might not trust you again. Tell her she needs to stop fooling around because it's not good for her. If she doesn't listen say to her i am going to tell your parents if you don't stop. Give her 1 more chance to see if things get better or not.

Answer 6

You're position as a friend is to try to make her comfortable enough that she will tell her parents herself. She can't hide her secret too much longer. You'd be surprised how her parents will support her. They may have to get over the initial shock but they still love her and they will support her.

Answer 7

This is a hard one... because if you tell her parents then she will never tell you things again, but if she's in big trouble that needs help then maybe you should tell her parents just because you care about her and let her know that you care about her as well.

Answer 8

What good would it do to tell at this point? Besides, you'll lose a friend over it. Keep it a secret, and encourage your friend to make better choices. Besides, her parents might already know. Then you'll look REALLY bad.

Answer 9

Yes you should if her parents are kind and loving people...If she is only going to endure abuse verbally and physically no.....You should then help her to talk to the pastor. Let her know you care and want to help. You might even consider talking to your own parents....maybe they can help also.

Answer 10

keep her sercret but try to convince her to someone maybe the youth pastor