have u ever pre-judged a person?

Question

and found them to be the total opposite of what u thought

or

were u right in thinking they were a complete bastard!!!!

Answer 1

i dont pre-judeg, but I have been pre-judged before::

I dress like one of those gothic kids you see in the malls: bondage pants, corset, combat boots, the works, and people look at me funny. One day, a girl from my englihs class saw me at the mall ( i dress kinda of toned down for school) and made fun of me and said i was a saten-worshiping-freak. Well, fate set in and we were partnered up to do a english project two days later. we got to talking and now she is one of my closest friends.
It just goes to show you that just because someone is little different than you or they arent something that you are used to, doesnt mean that they are freaks or anything.

Answer 2

I have pre-judged the friend of one of my friends before. I got a bad feeling from her though and I just don't like her. As it turned out a couple months after having met this person, I found out she really isn't a very good person. She abandons her daughter to go on drinking binges, she drinks and drives with her daughter in the vehicle..lotsa stuff that makes me feel very sick and angry when I think about it. So in her case I was right in my judgement.
I have also been wrong about a person though when I judged them, and I ended up telling them about it and apologizing because I felt so bad, cause they are an amazing person, very talented and smart and I'm very glad I gave her a second chance and didn't follow my first impression of her.

Answer 3

I have pre judged people i wont lie, but ive had the feeling of being pre judged and it isnt very nice, at the end of the day its human nature, i dont understand why people are that way inclined about making assumptions, unless you get to know that person and confirm your curiosity then you arent really in a position to comment, until then you either make the choice to know that person, or let your feelings about that person eat away at you which is unhealthy!! get to know em first i say!

Answer 4

I alway's give other humans the benefit of the doubt cause I believe even the seemingly most worst/nasty person has good inside and does the nasty/evil thing for a reason- because of something thast happened in their past to make them that way. But, I must say- I could not stand my sister in law and thought her a b...tch- but then I decided to give her a chance & got to know her and grew close to her, after 8months I realised I wasa right, she is a bith and I should always go with my intuition- then again I allso discovered she had a terrible childhood, which caused her to be this *****- I understand that and feel for her but she upsets my energy and I can not be around her or my whole personality changes into morbid.....

Answer 5

We all pre-judge people. It's not because we're horrible beings and want to think ill of everyone. It's because we can't read their heart/intentions. Therefore, we judge them by their actions, dress, tone of voice, facial expressions, and manor. It's how we determine if they are someone we want to get to know better. Being imperfect humans leaves the inevitable fact that we will make mistakes. Leading to our being wrong about a pre-determination of ones character. But practise and wisdom allows us to be right only after we have sot out all angles of the person we are studying.

Answer 6

Yes... I have pre-judge a person before... As a matter of fact, I pre-judge people every day. You too, and don't even know it.

First of all, pre-judging is not always bad. You might pre-judge a person to be nice and be right about it. Just because people won't publicly admit to pre-judge others, that is no indication that they are telling the truth. People lie when they say they don't pre-judge. Want to prove it?

Find a person that won't pre-judge. Then say to the person that they are lying about it. I am willing to bet that they will accuse you of something. If the person doesn't really know you, and they reached to the conclusion of his/her accusation to you, then he/she has in fact pre-judged you...

Answer 7

I think it's just human nature to pre-judge.
I always say to myself I won't do it again when I find that I was wrong about someone, but then someone will come along who will just prove me right after just 5 minutes, so I tell myself it's always best to be prepared.

If they turn out to be better than you thought, you can always change your mind about them.
If they turn out to be the bastards you thought they were, it won't catch you by surprise.

Answer 8

All the time. The biggest one I judged just so happened to be my soul mate and we've been together now over 4 years. I always judge people by the way they act or who they hang around, etc. Even though I know its wrong.

Answer 9

yes on both accounts.
I thought one of my best friends was a crazy freak when I first meet her, and then once I got to know her I found out she was the good kind of crazy
Although I did meet a guy that I thought was a total a-hole, and I got to be his friend and still thought he was a a-hole, I would even introduce him as a a-hole... now I refuse to talk to him

I like to think that the way I judge people when I first meet them is like trying some type of new food, it may look funny and smell funny but you don't know how it taste till you actualy taste it

Answer 10

Ha I totally have and not sound my own horn - but I rarely wrong. It doesn't pay to pre-judge people as the only way to figure it out is to get to know them.